my girlfriend left me because ED, how can i convince her it can be healed?

Take it as a positive, you can now totally work and focus on yourself without any pressure to perform. I am in the same situation as you. We have been able to do only oral till now.

It depends a lot on your pmo history, how long you were addicted for, how long have you been on a streak for, are you being honest in your streak, etc. Do drop in the aforementioned details and it’d be easier to help you!

 

I'm so sorry man

 

Sorry to hear that man.

From your journal entry it is quite clear that your ED is more Porn induced rather than performance anxiety.

Healing is definitely possible. I feel that the best way would be to abstain from Porn Masturbation as well as orgasm with your partner for at least 90 days. Your partner seems understanding about porn related issues right?

The best way would be to communicate to your partner your intention to abstain from all forms of sexual stimulation for 90 days.

This is just my suggestion. I'd suggest , if I may, to not reach out to her for support and thus contribute to her worries more, instead own up yourself, rely on yourself and your support system here in this forum and make a determined approach to solve the issue. Tell her your plan, but don't lean on her. Succeed for 90 days and then make love. Let's hope the issue gets resolved.

I'd caution you to make sure you keep your word about reboot, and not to take this lightly. If you aim to do it, do it with the best of your integrity. Relapses are NOT OKAY, especially when you are in a situation like this.

I'm sorry to say this, but your woman may leave you or support you, we can never tell. All we have within our control, is to do this with our full commitment.

Best wishes, man. This dilemma surely can be overcome!

 

The best way to convince her would be to communicate your strong desire to end this crap addiction for good, communicate your action plan, and work through it with determination. It is easy to tell her promises and words of reassurance, it is worthwhile as well. But the correct thing to do is to end this crap addiction for good and to NOT RELAPSE.

I'm guessing that you had given her reassurance, but has still consumed crap. If that's true in your case, it is best to prove your intention by putting it into action. Thus, by action, you can gain her trust and more importantly, you can trust yourself.

You have a strong reason to quit this crap friend, take leverage of the situation. End this crap addiction for good. May you heal

 

Have you been to a doctor about it? I have ED but I can do it if take 20mg of c14l1$.

I had a relationship while hooked on porn, the first month of sex was all under c14l1$, after a couple months abstaining from porn, I was able to do it without a pill again, but then she pissed me off trying to convince me into an open relationship and swinging, so I broke up with her and the sadness that filled me made me go back to porn addiction.