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I know that being alone doesn't mean being lonely but..

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Godlovesme999, Dec 28, 2020.

  1. Dec 28, 2020 #1
    Godlovesme999

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    I'm 24 yo and i literally grew up single and that doesn't not i haven't been with girls i mean i did met the girl who i considered the love of my life but broke up with her a year ago due to hard circumstances she was having, whatever im trying to say that I'm so tired of being on my own all the time I'm not a failure when it comes to getting a girl but i feel like I'm not ready yet.. I need to get so strong fighting porn first and i need to be someone to succeed to achieve goals first but i feel like I'm rushing for it because success takes time can you advise me please
     
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  2. Dec 31, 2020 #2
    TheJetDude44

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    Trust the process and don't be afraid to opening up to people even girls. Its okay to have female friends and not want a relationship with them just be honest that's what cultivates meaningful a lifelong friendships.
     
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  3. Dec 31, 2020 #3
    Godlovesme999

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    Thank you so much bro i appreciate the support
     
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  4. Jan 3, 2021 #4
    Rosamund

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    I have a friend who has migrated and lives totally alone in a foreign country. She is about 23 like me.
    One night that we were talking together I asked her how can she tolerate and handle the feeling of loneliness, and she answered so wisely:
    " If I'm not able to enjoy my life alone, I won't be able to enjoy my life with my husband/ partner. Before we enter any relationship, we must acquire the skill of enjoying solitude. That's what I'm trying to do, and I'm sure at the appropriate time, I'll find the one I've waited all my life for."
    I acknowledge her. She was right.
    Have you read the book "Jane Eyre" ? In one part, it says:

    “I can live alone, if self-respect, and circumstances require me so to do. I need not sell my soul to buy bliss. I have an inward treasure born with me, which can keep me alive if all extraneous delights should be withheld, or offered only at a price I cannot afford to give.”

    I know sometimes it seems hard, but our responsibility is to empower ourselves. Wait, and be so powerful, true love waits...
     
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  5. Jan 8, 2021 #5
    Godlovesme999

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    Rosamund, thank you so much for your reply it means a lot.. I totally know that being Able to live happily without a partner is a very important skill and i have been enjoying my life alone.. But what im saying here is that should i enter a relationship if i found the right person? I mean even if i didn't heal from porn addiction yet and still improving myself?
     
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  6. Jan 8, 2021 #6
    Rosamund

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    Well, opinions may differ. If you ask me I would say yes! Why not? You can enter a relationship and set boundaries if you have any. Quitting porn may take time, but we must be serious, Specially if someone is entering our life :D I think if u find the really right person, it even might help u to quit porn.
     
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