Difficulty with porn replacements.

It happened very often to me too, you know what's the worst? Whether the beginning may seem like that of the videos or the images, to use the term "softer" actually, as soon as this search starts, the porn will come back.

What I can tell you is not to be fooled by these thoughts, from my experience what happens is the replacement of a new obsession, and then inexorably return to porn; as the mind will never be fully satisfied.

Don't use what can take you on the old road, even if it seems harmless, use Internet restrictions and blocks, it can help you.

Staying free is the goal, come on brother @DaleEarnhartJr I'm with you.

 

Yeah thats the beginning of the stages of pmo withdrawal. Your training your body to refrain from pmo so your mind is tricking you to get your fix without technically breaking your oath. Its kinda like your convincing yourself in a way that looking at yoga videos and insta sluts is harmless and okay but its far from.

 

Do it for dale!

 

This is a positive thing, and you have to be proud of the freedom you are attaining, but don't be fooled by what appears harmless as "soft". The process of the mind is the same.

Keep on the right path, you are not alone.

 

Robert: Damn it Dale!

 

This is something I have struggled with for a long time. I cut out P from my life for about a year. But would continually get sucked into softer stuff thinking its not as bad. And as others have said, this eventually led to using P again. I now realize as @blacklabel92 , its my mind trying to come up with work arounds but really its making things worse.

 

Psubs or edging. It's all the same to the addict brain.

Since you've cut off the mass transit expressways of direct high intensity novel neverending dopemine hits by abstaining from porn, your brain (which formed a chemical dependence) is forming new nueropathways and connections to delivery it's craven hits.
Your brain wants what it wants.
In moments of.

• Boredom
• Loneliness
• Anger
• Stress
• Hurt
• Stress
• Fear
• Tiredness

We seek to sooth. Dopamine and other hormones relieve this uncomfortability.

Like others have said, since your conviction and resolve has stopped porn, the weaker self tries to create alternatives to keep the drip coming. This is a form of denial and justification to actually never remove the self-induced dependence on brain chemicals for relief. They just change forms. Sad to say, as long as you keep Porn Subs in your life and walk the Edge you will relaspe. It's too close for comfort not to.

So great job on stopping P this far, incredible feat, you should feel proud. Next step, live intentional every day. Don't kid yourself into replacements. Your brain will deceive you, it has for years.

Best of luck, I am excited to see how you succeed moving forward!

 

Of course @DaleEarnhartJr , it's not possible to live with blinders on and not see anything around us.

But, in my opinion, there is a difference between:

"This situation/image happened to me."
And;
"This situation/image happened to me, interesting, it's not bad, wait a bit, looks so nice, let's do a detailed research etc."

Experiment what can bother you and lead you astray, if you are worried move away and see what happens.

Enjoy your day.

 

I like that distinction. Good to remember.

 

Same here. I'm a big MMA fan and I am very mindful of my urges when there are two hot female fighters on the fight card. I plan to change the channel when I feel the temptation.

 

What I've done is to go through who I'm following on a day I'm feeling strong and unfollow any that have revealing pictures on their Instagram. I have been pruning my follows for a while now. I didn't realize how many accounts I followed. I have also unfollowed any account that has bikini pictures on their Instagram. I also limit my Instagram use to five minutes a day.

This is one of my weak spots. I used to follow several female wrestlers on Instagram but when they became triggering, I had to unfollow all of them. I may follow them for a few months in the future when I become stronger. I have decided to not watch wrestling and just read the results of the shows on a wrestling website. To me, it's respecting my triggers. i hope some of this helps. Have a terrific new year!!!

 

My opinion (and only that, for what it’s worth) is that porn addicts are sex addicts. Porn is our cocktail of choice, but without it we will seek other sexual stimulants, sometimes telling ourselves the lie that they are “innocent.”

Such substitutes lead only one way, and it’s not to sobriety.

An alcoholic is not in recovery simply because he is sipping wine instead of aftershave lotion.

 

Are you paying for it?

 

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