New and actively working to change

Hi everyone,

I am new to this forum and have been addicted to PMO for the past 12 years. My girlfriend of 3 years recently broke up with me for personality issues on my part. Many of which I attribute to me not being as attentive, not listening enough and basically taking her for granted because I had PMO to satisfy my physical needs.

She was my bestfriend and even so I managed to hurt her with my actions. Even when we were sexually intimate, I would experience sexual dysfunction and would not be able to enjoy sex together. I am actively trying to change to be a better person for the next person in my life and am sick and tired of being stuck in this cycle.

I look forward to this community. I appreciate any and all the support I can get as I embark on this journey.

Thanks all!

 

Thank you for the kind words!

That is good advice. I've abstained from social media cause I found that to be a huge trigger for me. I think installing full porn blockers will be the next step.

Thanks!

 

Blocksite is aweso

I just tried it and it is awesome! It just redirects me away. Thanks!

 

Woke up in the morning and suddenly felt the urge again. It was triggered by reminiscing about my ex. I need to remember that those days are over. That I will never speak to her again. And that if I want any chance at a successful relationship in the future, I need to change.

Any tips on moving on and getting over an ex?

 

Urg.. Relapsed.. thinking about joining a 12-step sexaholics anonymous... Thoughts?

 

Thanks for the kind words Suerte! I am considering talking to my brother. I am so embarrassed and ashamed. But ultimately, what do I have now? Am I happy with what I have?

No. I need to change.

I have been reading about addictions and I think it helps. It has only been a week but man it feels like eternity.

Thank you!