Realised what my parameters are on day 54 and what helps me

I’m on Day 54 I started this journey because I had a fetish that was taking over my life

I haven’t indulged in that fetish the whole period of time I have been on nofap and that is my main parameter

My goal is to return to being attracted to normal vanilla basic things and I’m somewhat getting there with a long way to go as I’m currently in my second flatline

but I’ve also sexted a little and sent some nudes however I don’t see that as relapse as it’s not out of bounds of my parameters which are

1. No indulging in my fetish
2. No other porn material
3.little to no sexual conversation with randomers or possibles ( only realised this one through doing it and feeling it was a bad descision
4. No masturbation

things I’ve been doing that have helped so far:

meditating - but I don’t do it often at all
Watching Netflix - like really getting into a good show takes your mind off of it
Working out - of course releases endorphins and the energy you would otherwise put to sexual things
Hobbies - literally get a hobby again just occupies your time
Forgetting about it - this is a wierd one but I’ve found myself recently just forgetting that I’m doing this as it’s slowly becoming the new normal which is a good thing

I hope I get to the stage where I still haven’t madturbated but I’ve been talking to someone after my reboot and the attraction will be overwhelming because I’ve been deprived so long and will have rebooted. Hope this all helps

 

Thanks man!

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