How do you cope with loneliness while on NoFap, in quarantine?

If you want a happy and healthy relationship, one that is built to last, then it must start with a meeting of the minds, not a meeting of the bodies. I would highly recommend that even hand-holding be postponed until you know each other well enough to be persuaded you might make lifelong companions. The reason for this is simple: once touching begins, communication tends to shut down. "Body language" trumps.

Body language is universal. You can communicate on that level with virtually anyone of the right gender. But a physical relationship is never sufficient to keep two people happy in the long-term. If your interests do not match, if your habits become a source of irritation with each other, if your values or goals are not the same, you're destined for a rocky road. If you started the physical relationship too early, you won't have enough information to know if you're a good match, and you'll end up in a "blind", luck-of-the-draw marriage. Many people make this mistake--which is why there are so many divorces, split homes, and broken hearts. They "feel" like they're in love, but feelings are not what true love is, and feelings can change quickly.

Take your time. Enjoy a little romance. Don't feel like you need to ski all the way down to the bottom at once. Enjoy the scenery along the way. Stop and have fun along your journey--make memories together that will last--wholesome ones. Once you're married, much of this romance tends to fade. Make it last.

When you meet the right one, you should be able to feel comfortable with each other.

 

I ultimately do not know the set path. Each of us will have to figure out these firsts as we go. Remember, a relationship with a woman won't magically solve our problems. As @Do all to the glory of God mentioned above, you do not need to worry about they physical connection at this time. The quarantine is a perfect opportunity to connect with women online with out any stress of physical connection. I wonder if going out the the way to get "friend zoned" early on the in journey to find someone would be a great benefit. Essentially this would mean facing and accepting rejection head on. One of the biggest hurdles in connecting in any relationship is the fear of rejection. Embracing it is hard.

Honestly, connecting with a woman online can be as simple as talking about what I'm doing in my life and where I'm planning to go.

 

My second answer.

I believe I got off track with my previous post so I am instead going to specifically answer the topic title.

Accept who you are today. Today you are not in a relationship with a woman, this is OK. You want to be in a relationship with a woman, this is also OK. Learn to be comfortable with what you have today. Focusing more on today means all that time being alone in the past or any time in the future is not important. Focus on doing what improvements that can be done to ones self today. A future relationship will be built one day at a time so it's best to get used to it today.

I'd be wise to take my own advice.

 

Aww... thats very romantic
Theophile Gautier said that Heaven was on the lips of the beloved woman.

Unfortunaly I said "romantic" in a negative way. A pathological way. The romantic perpective on things is not very health oriented.

I understand what you are going through, I think I am in the same place sometimes. When I am on this mindset I feel disconected and vulnerable because it seem like girls (or the idea of girls) are running my mind 24/7 and that there is nothing that I can do. Feel powerless.
I think there is aspect about yourself that you could really focus on and improve but not as increasing posiblities with the oposite sex. Focus on things that make you happier and stronger and wiser and that are meaningful to you and satisfying to you.

For example: I do gardening and been doing it for some time now and I like it because I love nature and helping nature gives me meaning.
Recently discovered that girls DIG gardening LOL and I use to talk for hours with girls about plants and stuff. And it get me some girls I dont gonna lie to you! But I never did gardening to get girls. Its tricky but is important to differentiate why you are doing the thibgs you do

 

Dont be so hard on yourself. Is no wonder that you idealize girls, specially if you never had a relationship with one.
Just focus on you day by day, try to find that meaningful activity (the one you enjoy without care if someone is watching and if you win or loose). Your attraction and desire towards girls are not going to disappear because you dont focus on girls. Just let them alone, is time for you , thats all.

Even the worst quarentine or lockup state is no worst than jail. And prisoners workout and read books and improve and learn

 

"If you are going trough Hell, keep moving". I really know what you are talking about. I had a good relationship with a girl before covid but I was so unlucky. First I was hospitalized for 4 months and was in isolation because of a highly infectious disease ( worse than Covid).

Then I started meeting her again and things went well for several months until covid broke us off again in march. Then a while later we met again and everything seemed normal. We went on 6 dates in a pretty short time. One of them lasted for 8 hours. I met her mom, she met my family. I was thinking that this was moving towards a relationship.

So I messaged her and invited her on a date. That scared her. She shut down after I suggested that. What I later found out is that she is deeply depressed. It isn't that she never liked me but something changed. I am not sure if it even had to do with me confessing my feelings.

She still wants to meet but her lack of responses made me loose my crush on her. She is a super girl if she is available. But at this point she is just friendship material after I found out how much she is struggling. I knew she was struggling but Covid made her so depressed that meeting her at all is an uphill battle.

I am meditating daily, I work out at home, I read books, practice chess, and I am trying to go for daily walks to get some sun in my face. You just have to learn to enjoy your own company. In the end you are the only person you can rely on when times get though. Threat yourself as you would your best friend. Look yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you got this. No one or nothing can harm you.

 

I would just like to say that it is amazing that you are on your 438th day and am glad you have found a life without porn and wish you succeed with what you truly seek. Look inside because it all comes from inside.

 

I give hamburgers to homeless people. It’s cheap, easy to do, and helps with the loneliness. Give it a shot the next time you go to a drive through.