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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by corylife, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. ThisSideThatSide

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    and hows your depression?
    how are you dealing with it?
     
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  3. ThisSideThatSide

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    its never too late.
     
  4. HaveAMiceDay

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    nope! we are all still here going strong
     
  5. Steveal3aneef1

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    i was tired and was too cold to take a cold shower , i felt like im starting to procrastinate, so i hit thdeshower anyways , But still feeling down
     
  6. HaveAMiceDay

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    are you flat lining maybe? have you tried you think of ways to give yourself natural boosts of dopamine like hobbies, exercise etc
    also, remember with cold showers they are just a discipline technique. i think they help some physically but mainly it just trains you to do things you dont want to do. so take your health into account always, if i feel myself too cold or might be getting sick i refrain from cold showers i just take room temperature showers. constantly exposing your body to really cold temperatures might give your body a sense of dread subconsciously
     
  7. ThisSideThatSide

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    i dont think he is flat lining at this point.
    maybe he's just having one of those days where one doesnt feel like doing anything..
     
  8. willingness_to_change

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    Just like me today... but thankfully i was with family so i kept myself busy.

    Day 11 for me today guys; i feel down today and kinda pissed due to me going out with my sister and she taking way longer than expected to do some stuff, consequently messing up my sleep and tomorrow's schedule a bit. But i believe it has more to do with me doing a TRE (trauma release exercise) session today after quite a while -- i heard it causes you to become more irritable and stuff for some time.
     
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  9. ThisSideThatSide

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    if you are right, this phase wil pass quickly, dont worry.
    and day 11 is good! keep going!
     
  10. HaveAMiceDay

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    sorry man :/ nothing is worse than going through withdrawal and being irritated ughhhh i feel ya we here for you tho
     
  11. willingness_to_change

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    Hey lads! Had a much better day than yesterday (day 12)... i was feeling really angry for no good reason back then, and i can only imagine it in fact being the TRE session, since it releases repressed emotions trapped in the body.

    Let me know how you guys doing soon... hopefully well!
     
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  12. ThisSideThatSide

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    yesterday for me was tough.
    a friend sent a gif of a pornstar in a bikini or something.
    that didn't trigger me instantly, but later her videos that i'd once watched started to play in my head, and that was torture.
    i had to go back to watching nofap motivation videos on youtube, which i had not done in a long time.
    but, situation handled, buddies! im still going strong!
     
  13. willingness_to_change

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    Dang man, that sucks. Tell your friend politely to stop sending you these kinds of things, that they're a distraction and all. Glad to know you persevered :)
     
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  14. ThisSideThatSide

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    already did that.
    i thought 4mths into hardmode, i'd be immune to this crap. but no. the temptation still exists.
    but again, on the other hand, its only natural to want to fulfil your sexual desire.
     
  15. ThisSideThatSide

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    please help me people.
    ever since i saw that gif, i am tending to peek.
    i dont want to break this streak. it is the longest ive been on.
    tbh, i peeked once. another gif of an actress in which she was nude, but i closed it immediately.
    what do i do? how i do i go back to normal?
     
  16. willingness_to_change

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    Oh man, hang in there!

    Some ideas for you to do until it gets better: put on some music and just listen to it without using the computer/cellphone; go for a walk; take a long, relaxing bath; do some deep breaths with your eyes closed for at least 5 minutes while focusing on feeling your diaphragm expand and contract, followed by some self-talk meditation -- just let your emotional side express itself on paper without judgment (e.g.: "gosh i want to watch porn so bad, it would feel so good!") and then addressing him (also by writing) with your rational side, being sympathetic with him but also firm (e.g.: "yes, it would feel so good for a little while, but it's not good for x and y reasons").

    Finally, don't try to be productive and don't feel bad for not being, at least for a few days until it gets better. By not relapsing you are assuring your long term productiveness after all. You can do it mate!

    Update: also calling a friend or family member is great too... and don't worry about having peeked, it happens... perfectionism is troublesome rather than helpful. Just don't use it as an excuse to peek more... peeking systematically, now that is a problem.
     
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  17. ThisSideThatSide

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    thankss man!
    i will try meditation first.
    then ill write my emotions on paper.
    i will not fail y'all!
    its night time here so cant go for a walk, but i'll try everything else.
     
  18. willingness_to_change

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    Awesome man, i know you can do this... at times like this i think it helps to remember that it's not just our success that is at stake, but also every loved ones's that could be inspired by your change and improve themselves as well. And remember, just do easy stuff like the ones i mentioned, if you try to do hard stuff to take your mind off it i believe it gets tougher (e.g.: cold showers, push-ups etc).
     
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  19. ThisSideThatSide

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    sure! and thanks once again brother.
     
  20. HaveAMiceDay

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    hey you got this, remember its just a feeling the worst it can do is make you FEEL it. its up to YOU, your hands, your eyes if you are going to relapse. a friend send me something provocative of his gf and i had to remind myself im the stable one, the one on a better path.

    how do i know you can do it? cause youve done it before. its as simple as 1+1=2

    if you have an urge you know it leads to pmo

    1+1=2 its literally that simple to think about. resist and move on
     

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