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Is there a NoFap streak day we can look forward to where urges are gone?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by lonercub, Jan 19, 2021.

  1. lonercub

    lonercub Fapstronaut

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    The most difficult part of doing the NoFap is the constant urges and cravings we feel driving us insane. A day can turn out to be utterly miserable if we can not stop thinking about something that we find tempting.

    How many days, weeks, months do we need to endure before we can feel the urges go away and the danger is over?
     
  2. TheForsakeen

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    you have people saying it goes after the reboot(they also happen to have partner or don't have difficulty picking up girls) others will tell you it never goes away, ultimately it all depend on what you do nofap for and if you think mo is "wrong"; someone who have 90+ is more of an authority in the subject than me i am sure.
     
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  3. I wonder the same thing, unfortunately I fear the worst: It won't go away. I have abstained porn now for 32 months and for some reason, this month is a lot harder than pervious months. I'm thinking about wanting to watch porn several times a day. I think it has to do with corona and all that shit. I work from home alone, not meeting very many people and so on.

    Johann Hari says "the opposite to addiction is connection" and right now, I obviously don't make many connections and that makes abstaining porn a lot harder.

    It's quite frustrating indeed!

    I'm sorry for giving you the wrong answer to your question :(

    This month I'm also disallowing myself to fantasise just about anything that turns me on... I guess that contributes as well. Counting the days until this month is over...
     
  4. If the urges are complusive which in an addicts case 99% of the time always are then its a habit so a week or so unless you have ocd then its much harder probably requires a different method

    But thats just the compulsive urges, you got your trigger urges and you got the libido urges

    A lot of the triggers fade after the compulsive urges go but the libido gets stronger as you retain semon
     
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  5. Smith Sharp

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    I'd say it comes and goes. This is how I can best describe from my experience after 650+ days.

    It's like a graph that rises over time to a more clear mind with very little thoughts or urges. At the start there are many urges where the graph dips downwards. After months there may be a little dip downwards now and again. Every once in a while, maybe even after many, many months there is a major dip downwards with crazy urges. They generally don't last long, are manageable and the graph levels off. However sometimes external things can affect the graph and this is where we need to be prepared.
    The thing that put me clean wrong was at the age of 50 having to unexpectedly deal with a workplace bully. I discovered that I had no positive way in my arsenal of dealing with this situation. Rather than using my clear mind to think it through I made the mistake of acting out and ended up going through a year of relapses.
    Now I know to have a plan in place for major downward spikes: be alert for it, be honest about what the issue is. Read up on how to deal with it, whatever the issue is there are thousands upon thousands of people who have experienced the same thing.
     
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  6. I agree with every word @Smith Sharp writes. With his words, I am currently in that dip downwards with crazy urges. I know it will pass so I will just have to live with it.

    I just came home from a walk where I put snow inside my shirt. Then I did 600+ squats, had one litre of water and a cold shower until my head hurt. Feeling better now.
     
  7. TheForsakeen

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    you're sucking the life right out of me, how many in one go if i may ask.
     
  8. Smith Sharp

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    If I managed 10 squats I'd be celebrating and everyone would hear about it! :D:D:D
     
  9. With most of my addictions (porn, gaming, internet), the cravings go away within 30-45 days. At that point I am pretty confident about staying clean and I feel much more in control. But even the first day or two is very good progress.
     
  10. Lol :) I did it in four tabata sessions lined up one after the other with 1 min 45 sec rest in between sessions. One session consists of eight 20 second rounds with 10 sec rest in between. I did somewhere between 17 and 22 squats per round, so a total of about 600 (of which about 200 were jumping squats ;))
     
  11. lonercub

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    Thanks for those encouring words. Will have to keep going and hope things get easier over time.
     
  12. onwards_upwards_1

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    This is a really good question. I'm approaching 90 days porn free, and have had to start coming to terms with the fact that I'm never going to 'un-know' porn. I was addicted for half of my life and unfortunately I don't think any amount of time away from porn is going to make me forget that porn can make you feel really good (briefly).

    The plus side is that while I don't ever expect the cravings to go away entirely, they are getting less frequent and easier to manage - but I must be vigilant. I'm very aware that one 'bad day' could send me back to porn for comfort.

    @Smith Sharp put it really well, comparing it to graph - it's like stocks. A long term investment that may dip from time to time but if you stick with it will give great returns in the long run! Around day 70 - 80 I was really struggling, but after day 80 it's got pretty easy again with minimal cravings. Last night I was watching a tv show with my girlfriend and there was a scene that I thought woud be really triggering for me, but I didn't feel anything, which was great!

    It's probably going to be a life-long war with porn, although hopefully one where the battles become less frequent and easier to win over time.

    Good luck!
     
  13. Randy Andy

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    I like to think I'm already crazy and the thoughts are just lots of sprinkles on that sundae :). Basically what I hear you saying is the thoughts shouldn't be there and/or you should be getting to act on them. These are very normal thoughts for us addicts they're just very painful ones, so it's a good thing we don't have to believe them. That probably doesn't seem to help much since you do believe them, so this just sounds like gobbledygook. That's ok too. If I can stick with "a thought like any other thought is just a thought" especially if I have other tools to get free of that uncomfortable cycle of obsessive thoughts including how I shouldn't be in this situation then I find a lot more happiness. All my life I wanted happiness and all I ever found was mypenis :). There is a way to live happily not having to use pm+ rather than each thought dooming me to indefinite amounts of jonesing
     
  14. Smith Sharp

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    Thats an intersting outlook :D I have a question for you. Most of your thoughts. Are you deliberately and clearly thinking them in your mind? Like write now clearly think "This is me". Any other thoughts that you have that aren't you clearly speaking them in your mind... where do they come from? Why are they appearing. Why are they saying what they're saying? I'm not even talking about porn or sex thoughts. But any unasked for thoughts you have during the day,
     

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