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The 2021 Green Day Challenge [OPEN]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Dec 18, 2020.

  1. Another greenie yesterday and I'm already feeling better today. Heading to the gym now.

    Stay clean brothers.
     
  2. There's a lot here in the last few days.

    Mainly I just want to thank you guys for the support.
    Last 2 posts were somewhat challenging to put down.
    Big thank you to @BrohkenCompass.
    I'd love to hear about more about this. Still, just reading this gave me a sense of support. Thank you, truly.

    I let up on my meditation practice out of the intention to bring me back down to earth.
    I've been more in prayer at least overtly, than ever before.
    I have no issue with prayer at this point, but it's often been a bit more of an obstacle of a word than meditation.
    Growing beyond that now.

    Just reached out to my brother to discuss reconnecting and hashing out some of the past. He's not the first in the family I've spoken with in the last week.

    In short, it's been intimidating.

    It's good work. Necessary. Connected to healing that's well-past needed in the family, and surely connects to PMO for me.

    Day 22 of this year. 25 carrying over.
     
    Last edited: Jan 23, 2021
  3. This really interested me because the entire point of meditation is to be more "down to earth", as in connected to the here and now of it all. I'm not discounting prayer, I too am a Christian and have much to be thankful for as well as many intentions I ask for help with.



    I went back to edit it for easier reading. My phone keyboard and I have a love-hate relationship. It loves to replace (space bar) with letters on the bottom row, and I hate to proofread for errors or take my time typing.

    Without giving up any clear reason I asked my wife to find me a very basic level video or website to help me to get something to you that can be useful. All she knows is that it's for a friend who's having a hard time.


    Hope this finds you well.
     
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  4. Yes, there can be different types of meditations or intentions with meditation. You probably know this already.

    Sometimes it can send one into deep aspects of mind. Which may be "transcendent", "airy" or like heaven. There's a great deal to discuss on this matter but that's to leave it in short.

    I appreciate you @BrohkenCompass. I'll be happy to check out what your wife passes on. Thank you
     
  5. I hear ya man. Great job stepping forward and putting yourself out there with family. I'm on the out with most of my Mom's side, I get the hesitation to reach out. As for what I have to offer..... It's a lot to process and fully get. I'm still very much a novice at getting outside of my thoughts and getting away from the anxieties of "Today, Here, Now".

    This might be a little too much for the group discussion. Based on some writings I've read of yours I'll take a chance and share this stuff with you and that you'll be interested in this vs. thinking I'm crazy.

    When my wife's friend first introduced me to some of these ideas it was waaaaay above my level.

    https://www.the-guided-meditation-s...herself-perspective-q-a-with-brad-austen.html

    https://www.nickersoninstitute.com/...ing-crazy-its-part-of-ascension-and-the-shift

    Video
     
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  6. I had another red day it came after making love to the wife again. I've fallen back into my old habits. For some strange reason I was more determined to do NoFap when my marriage was in a shambles. Last year I managed to go 59 days in a row before giving in, now my marriage is back on track I'm struggling even just to make a week.
    I've also added in my
    amber days which for me is edging with or without P. I know that edging always leads to a relapse so I have to stop kidding myself.
     
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  7. HeadlessKnight

    HeadlessKnight Fapstronaut

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    Today was the worst day of the year so far, deceptions in many aspects. Had some cravings that came since yesterday, was almost searching some pics that would eventually take me to see some P, even with the brain trying to deceive me thinking "it's just a quick look to clear a doubt, there won't be MO". But in hard times like these I have to show who I am, I can't surrender to P, that's not an option.
     
  8. I'm glad you're analyzing and looking at Amber days because the slippery slope is real.

    Also, I can't find the original thread, but I've read about some scientific evidence indicating day 7 and day 14 have significant hormone spikes that we can use to our advantage with physical exercise, or let it get the best of us if not prepared for. I've struggled all lady year rarely getting past 15 days for this reason alone.
    Know they enemy.

    Lastly, kudos and congrats on working on your marriage and getting it back on track. That's a reward that will pay dividends for years to come.
     
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  9. Fight like your life depends on it. Good job recognizing what's happening behind the curtain.
     
  10. fredisthebes

    fredisthebes Fapstronaut

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    Day 4. A bit achy this morning after yesterday's workout. In a good way. Just planning my shopping list, trying to eat a little healthier and a bit less stodgy to help my mood and energy levels.

    Feeling a bit more determined now after a slow start. Now that any idea of having a 'perfect' week/month/year is abandoned, im just going to focus on getting better,moving in the right direction.
     
  11. Thank you @BrohkenCompass. I'll check out what you shared with me. I do appreciate it.
     
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  12. Day 24 this year, 27 carrying over. 123/126 carrying over from last challenge.

    Just wanted to stop by and update.
    Focusing on gratitude.
    Read a few of the other posts.
    Keep going friends. Get "out of the box" as you can.
    At least, that's one of the things I've found has been necessary for me in staying clean.

    You can do this.
     
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  13. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    so you are at 123 or 126 day streak?
     
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  14. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    I too had many struggles with chaser effect after sex IRL with wife. My journal has more details but for my entire life I had a habit of "topping off" sex IRL with a PMO session. So I had to pay really close attention to every thought pattern to uncouple the sequence of those two events, and reprogram my brain to have different thoughts after sex IRL. Congrats on your marriage being better. Stay strong.
     
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  15. 27 day streak without any relapse.
    Out of the 126 days since I joined the end of last year's challenge, I've had 123 days clean.
    When I had my first relapse at 78 days, I started counting days clean out of total days. It's essentially the green and red day system we are using here.

    I've carried it over in my count because it has helped me realize how much progress I've made, which helps me stay positive and clean.
     
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  16. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Got it. that's a good system and great results on your part. On that basis I'm around 132/133. You and I are close. Let's keep up the good work.

    Although I feel pretty crappy right now as I usually do on Mondays because the wife can have certain weekend behaviors that really bring me down. This weekend was an especially depressing event. The upside is I have zero emotional energy and can't even think of anything remotely resembling a PMO session. I guess in the past even in this condition I would have found a way to retreat into that escape world, so - Progress!
     
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  17. Yes Tony! 132 days out of 133 is remarkable.
    Honorable mention to @BrohkenCompass again, because he implemented this sort of system even while still in last year's challenge.
    @tonyk1982 , If you feel the need to talk out those difficult things that have happened, feel free to write them out to one of us or the group.
    Your progress continues to be an inspiration. Let's keep up the good work, as you said.
     
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  18. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 14 - I've previously had trouble on or around Day 7 and Day 14, there's some research about that cycle for us PMO addicts. Not feeling any urges though. It is very firmly in my mind that if I went for an escape session with PMO right now I'd feel horrible afterwards. Stay strong everyone.
     
  19. Confirmed. I feel like I had an out of body experience yesterday. The reality is that a coping auto-response to rejection swept right over me late Sunday night and into Monday morning. I was simply trying to cuddle with my wife, she pretty much told me go away, leave me be and go to sleep. I wound up jerking off with no porn, then as the day progressed after waking up I took the train to porn-town and got off and on at all the stations.

    And what do I get for all those dirty little orgasms? Sore balls, and a bucket of shame and regret. Went for a walk this morning, and listened to the audio book. I am perhaps going to get through it with a single strike?
     
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  20. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    @BrohkenCompass - make this a quick relapse. You can do it. Stop messing around and lead the way.
     
    Last edited: Jan 26, 2021

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