Should I delete Tinder and just focus on me?

I too have this problems with dating apps. I almost never get matches and when I do no one replies to any of my messages. Right now I'm getting off dating apps and working on myself and trying to fix my crappy self esteem. I'm hoping by my not focusing on getting a girlfriend will somehow make me more attractive and less desperate so that a girl will someday want me. So I would maybe try it for a couple months and see if things get better. I'm sorry I don't have a better answer, but just so you know you're not alone.

 

Agree with the author above.
The solution is much more simple than you can guess.
First task, as it was mentioned is to work on your self-esteem. Even if the luck finds you, the girl with whom you'll date, can feel if you are unsure, and that's a problem.
More than that, Tinder is not really a place where you can find someone (theoretically you can), but you will have more chances somewhere outside, at the disco, on the street...
How can girls get to know about you, if you spend your time at home?
It's better to try and to fail, and to get experience than sit and guess what would she say if... And who knows, maybe your first try can be successive...?!

 

Delete Tinder. It is not good for your mental health and it is full of triggers. Try to meet women in real life instead. When the lock downs are over that is. Not sure how it is where you live but if you are on lock down then just prepare for the day you can go out again. Do push ups at home, meditate and read books.

Call some friends if you have any. I am meeting some girls at the moment. Only one at a time and less than once a week. Lock down makes it hard to meet people but not impossible. I need people personally. My mental health is a priority so if I can meet friends I will do that.

I have had some phone calls and actually met quite a few friends during the last 2 months. Reached out to my facebook friends and most want to hang out. Thought I had lost them since I have tuned out for years. But they were all ready to meet again. Such a relief.

 

Yea delete it

 

Delete it. Girls have many guys talking to them at the same time on those apps. I deleted mine to take back control of my self esteem.

 

The fact you are making a thread about this, should be a red flag, tinder is a Automatic trap to screw you get rid of it, ever since I've gotten into investments I know realize the true value of Automatisms in modern society, without those you are screwed, drop Tinder.

 

I have a few dating apps. Tinder is the worst. I’ve met a few women from Bumble. Hinge is okay. Tinder is the worst; the fewest replies, meeting in person is much less likely, more fake accounts, etc.

Delete Tinder, or put it on hold, and download a better app if you want to meet someone.

 

I have several dating apps and Im also struggling with getting dates, it sucks because I want to date. Tinder works the worst for me, i have the most succes with happn.
I was talking to a girl colleague and were talking about dating apps and she showed me her matches.....hundreds of guys all hitting her up and she ignores 80%. She even said to me "hey look this is a good pickup line!" and I almost yelled at her okay why dont you reply? She said "aww I dunno"
So yeah brothers, its extremely unfair for guys my opinion.

Beside lockdown/ristrictions are taking almost 1 year now and my patience is running out, i almost workout everyday thats the only thing thay keeps my on my grind.

 

Tinder's only good if you are a Woman, or a 10/10 guy, it's not made for 8s or below.

 

Wipe out of thinder, is not really helpfully to get a mate, but focused more on people thath you love like family, friends,etc. Or even join to some volunteer will help you more that focus on yourself

 

I have never used a dating app so I have no experience here. However I have seen plenty of videos which speak to dating apps not really being good for men. Like one persons said above dating apps tend to be better for women and can work as a guy if you are a really attractive man. The reality is that women get a lot of hits on dating apps, and in many cases a guy that is perfect 10 so to speak will entertain the company of women with whom he really does not want a relationship. He pumps and dumps!

The issue here is that the all attention women get on these apps and then if they have been with a perfect 10 guy, they will have an inflated ego and self esteem. They can tend to believe I can get the perfect 10 guy so why settle for less. When in reality most perfect 10 guys will hit it and quit it.

For me personally I would leave the dating apps out. Getting involved in social activities where they are people including women that you can interact with is best. Even if you do not find someone it will allow you to develop the social skill needed in life and for relationships.

Also, I have suffered with PIED in the past and even outside of that I find that I am not fit for a relationship if I am actively engaging in porn. I need sometime free from PMO before I start looking for a partner. PMO really can f up relationships. I would say focus on your recovery right now.

I also suspect these dating apps are inhibiting your recovery. If you are always bummed because you can not get any attention on these apps this could easily be a trigger that sends you back to PMO. So then you may have an unhealthy cycle going also.

There is common theme going now as in the male improvement community, level up and the women will come. Basically this is saying get you mind right, your soul right, you body right and money right. While is sounds cliché, become the best version of yourself. The reality is women are more attracted to men who have their shit together. Have a look at the below video. It gives some good insight, It is what persons refer to as red pill content and while I do not fully subscribe to red pill ideology, there is a lot of value in this video.

 

A lot of people don't have succes on Tinder, it's not a problem with you if you think so

 

poeple are judged by their looks and not how they are! if you not the best looking guy u will be swiped away. Unfair, because they may be amazing kind of poeple. They judge on ur pictures, so u most compete with all those 'pretty guys' to get matches. Not the fact that online dating is made for one thing only: THEY WANT TO MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS THEY CAN!. They dont care if you get a match, this is why tinder and all this online dating bullshit is never gonna work.

 

I personally decided to get rid of these fake dating apps, made for you to pay in order for the algorithm to make you appear in their app.
I simply became faithful that one day, as I normally did in the past, I will get laid as a normal person should do: no socials, no tinder, no dating apps.
Just real life conversations, as back in time.

I know it might sound akward nowadays, but I was never really made for social media. That's it.

 

Did she gave you any form/way in which you can contact her? If not, don't even bother or perhaps you can try if you can and want and it's abot a small effort, but don't be surprised

 

Women change their minds all the time, do not sweat it. That is standard stuff. Chances are she found what she thought was a better opportunity or simply had a change of heart.

 

Don't be so hard on girls, don't call them bitches, that's an incel mentality. She just found another great man, better than you.
Better than the 90 per cent of men.
But that's it, that's how dating apps work. You will always lose, just try and do it in real life, and you'll see how girls will appreciate your courage to go and talk to them, in person.

Somebody just can't have an interesting profile on Instagram, Facebook, Tinder, or any other social media.
The first one here was ME.
So listen to what I did. I got rid of that crap, of that useless shit that downgraded my value with algorithms and standards of beauty.

And that's not cause I am ugly, or I hope so. In a year I changed a lot, I am maturing, still an 18yo.
I had my conquers, but here it goes, all IN REAL LIFE.

I could never do that with just being on social. Because you know what? Socials make you antisocial, passing hours on them and forgetting about who you got next.
I could never do it great with some girls if when they searched my profile, they would have seen how basic and ugly my profile was.

I just understood how socials downgrade people status and make them look at basic people, compared with Instagram stars.

 

Hey bro i know how you feel. I personally would recommend you getting off any dating app they are filled with empty and people with no goals but to have sex. And everything is very superficial in there, if you lack some physical attraction people won't care almost like its a app to find someone with the perfect look and not with the perfect match.