10 Months Clean - Do Thoughts of Missing Porn Ever Go Away?

My husband and I have an agreement that if during sex his mind goes to porn then we stop immediately. Then we talk. I told him I’d rather stop than have him pretend he’s with someone else or thinking of porn.

 

Suppose there IS a way to completely surpass memories and urges of porn, if you stay the course you will find that way. You've come a long way already.

 

You know, honestly, I don't think that it will ever go away entirely. What I THINK happens, though, is that the thought/compulsion will come up less frequently, it will come up in a less powerful way, and is easier to move on from the thought. I also THINK that any slips cause a disproportionate amount of damage compared to recovery days. I.e., Slipping one day, requires much more than one day of recovery to get to the same point in your head that you were before the slip.

 

Please do not give your thoughts any power, of course you may occasionally think about it, but the very most important things is you keep taking that one day at a time and also you have the support of your partner there to help you. She is far better than any porn you could possibly watch so remind yourself how grateful and lucky you are toi have her and do stuff together doesn't have to be sex but so that you are not isolated or alone to go watch porn