ashamed on me!! help me please

Hey! Welcome to the platform,

Good luck crossing your limits and breaking the habit!

 

yes, this is the world hardest addiction to overcome.... PMO is the 'normal' in this world. while it only gives bad things, like seeing women only as F*able objects... Good luck man I really hope you can do it.

 

Science makes you stronger than addiction :
Hello, learn how the brain works, how does it secrete dopamine that makes you strongly ask to return to watching porn, this knowledge makes it easier for you to resist
I advise you to learn more with this science,
You will know the feeling, anxiety, and boredom that accompanies the withdrawal process and that it is temporary.
I wish you success and exit from the virtual world to the real world

 

Hi, when you say it's your 19th day here does that mean you stayed clean for 19 days and relapsed yesterday? If so look at the sober time as well not only the relapse. Relapses are part of the process. Recovery is not linear. It's not that you PMO for xy years then one morning decide to stop then it's over. No no. Unfortunately not hehe. A relapse can teach you on what you got to work next. As long as you keep your direction clear, as long as you stay committed to recovery, work on recovery on a daily basis, as long as you choose yourself over your addiction, as long as you keep going, hang in there, you are on track. Stay strong and safe.

 

Here is a lengthy response and tips I have learned in my journey.

I relapsed twice after 6 months Or so being porn free. It was pretty crushing when I thought I had it beat. I’m currently a year or so free from that relapse. Although in this year, I had 2 near relapses and straddled the line and looked and tempted myself more than I should have of barely clothed or see through women.

I have a wife and kids and I had to tell her and she has helped. Along with a few friends opened up too. It lifted a huge weight off.

I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months. The relapse before was seeing on ESPN website the athletes body magazine and got curious which athletes made it and had beautiful woman. Had zero intention of doing porn, but those were triggers.

I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind. We are trying to undo years and years of bad addictions and it takes time to undo that.
“Above Inspiration” YouTube videos are great too. Give them a listen, it’s usually 10-20 min long.

Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. M make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better. Porn free radio podcast by Matt Dobschuetz
I also told myself , I would help as many people possible struggling with this as I could once when I got it under control.

keep us posted and best of luck