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Hi bro welcome to nofap. Definitely you’re moving in the right direction. I truly believe we all can change yourself and live nofap lifestyle. Stay strong keep fighting!

 

Congrats on 26 days! You are on the road to recovery and better days ahead for you and your wife. Working hard on repairing my relationship with wife which my behavior severely damaged. I wish you all the best.

 

Welcome..
Im glad you're fighting the battle.. so.. does you wife know about your addiction?
You said she caught you but did you talk about it?? Confession is healing and right know you both need honesty. I know you're taking your time and going step by step.. I guess your therapist will recommed to talk with her...
I wish you the best and I hope you can keep beating and reaching your goals!!!
Persue your freedom!!!!

 

Welcome to NoFap!!!

 

Welcome back! Congratulations on getting started putting things back together.

 

Hey man congratulations on your streak you are doing the right thing and your process is very good with your wife that helps a lot, good luck on your journey and remember going step by step

 

Good to meet you man! You’re taking solid steps in the right direction. We all start somewhere and the key is taking one step at a time (as you are doing). Best wishes on this journey!

 

Thanks for sharing. I had 18 years or so of struggle with porn. Here is what I have learned

I relapsed twice after 6 months Or so being porn free. I’m currently a year or so free from that relapse. Although in this year, I had 2 near relapses and straddled the line and looked and tempted myself mire than I should have.

I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months. The relapse before was seeing on ESPN website the athletes body magazine and got curious which athletes made it and had beautiful woman. Had zero intention of doing porn, but those were triggers.

I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind. We are trying to undo years and years of bad addictions and it takes time to undo that.
“Above Inspiration” YouTube videos are great too. Give them a listen, it’s usually 10-20 min long.

Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. M make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying to do better. Porn free radio podcast by Matt Dobschuetz
I also told myself , I would help as many people possible struggling with this as I could once when I got it under control.

Learn as much as you can and it is beatable. I’m glad you guys are seeing a therapist and work on what you put into your mind. Put great things in your mind. I hope this helps and keeps us updated.

 

Great post and encouraging words Runner. Thanks.

 

Best of luck to you Robindale. I hope everyone can do it and learn something from each mistake, even if a relapse happens.