10 days short of 90 and the relaps cost me $150

Delete snap, why you spend time on this useless app anyways? What advantage do you have of it that isn't there without? You submit yourself to a piece of technology and discover that you feel guilty for making the decision in the end. Your emotional brain tricked you here and had been assertive to your detriment. Nevertheless good job bro for the 80 days and stay strong on your way forward!

 

Don’t use Instagram or Snapchat, they are full of triggers. Just remember that obsessing about NoFap will not do you any good. Instead, obsess about or be focused self improvement. Read books for example , complete your work. Do something with that pressure from the urges rather than keep it burning inside of you. Take a cold shower, go out of the house. Do something that will give you a sense of fulfillment

 

Obviously you have done very well for yourself and we have a lot to learn from you. I would like to know if the urges and temptations went away after some time because they usually say it takes about 90 days to rewire your brain.

 

From my experience, the answer is no. My brain is addicted to sexual stimuli even if i haven't watched porn for many months. I just hope that the urges to watch porn gets weaker for each time i remain sober for an extended period of time. I've accepted that my brain will always crave for sexual stimuli and i have to deal with it. Avoiding triggers and take proper care of oneself is key, but there is no guarantee.

TheJetDude44: You may failed to make it to your goal of 90 days, but you have been porn free for 80 days! That's worth something, get back on the horse and continue your journey! Regarding dating, there is no way to tell how many sober days are appropriate before dating and i personally don't think that number is important. Perhaps you can try different means for dating instead, that isn't as triggering?

 

A8X, tell us a bit more about yourself. How old are you? How long have you been addicted and how long have been off this habit? Tell us about your story.

 

First thing, you've done great so far. You've just stumbled across something that you should avoid next time, but your streak shows progress. You feel better without porn, right?

My advice: delete snapchat (if you can) and avoid dating.
The first thing led you to your recent failure, so the best thing is to delete the app. If you really need it for communication, then, do everything not to let ads pop up and delete any groups that you were wasting your time on (I mean, I'm not sure how snapchat works, but my guess it's a kind of Facebook-like app?)
In the case of dating, it is best to take care of your main problem first, and then take the next step. You must feel comfortable around women first, i.e. if they trigger your dirty thoughts, then that's not the best time to start dating them.

Step by step, brother. And learn from your last mistake, because you're really on the right way to freedom. Don't give up, because it's worth you future, and that's not an exaggeration.

 

Here is a summary of my background: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...nd-any-boundaries-how-to-remain-sober.302992/

I am close to 40, been a sex & love addict since my mid teens, started my recovery journey about 4 years ago, which consisted of going to 12-step meetings and therapy sessions. I was done with therapy little over a year ago and i don't go to 12-step meetings anymore for several reasons. But i still feel the need to communicating with other recovering addicts to remain sober and this looks like a great community for doing just that.

 

good luck man, we're here to help each other. ask whatever you want we can help you.

 

I can completely relate to what you are saying!

In my past, one of the reasons why I frequently fapped was similar to yours. I would make excuses that I need this app or that so as to connect to friends. But when I thoroughly analyzed, I communicated with friends a lot less and more time was spent on useless junks. Now, I don't have any social media accounts or mostly I deactivate them - I use them when extremely necessary.

One big realization for me was that so as to connect to people you don't need social media at all. It can never be a replacement to your natural way of communication.

It's hard unless you make a decision to delete. Once deleted you will no longer give a shit about it!

Good luck!