Femdom (just relapsed, god help me)

Nobody can stop you from going except you. But ask yourself, is it worth it? Clearly you came because you think femdom is in some way negatively affected your life. This would only exacerbate the problem.

 

Sure, but you might want to do a reboot first. I've heard people say they got traumatized by doing stuff irl. I think a reboot would probably fix this issue without having to take any extreme measures. But you are free to practice what you want- it's up to you man. Don't let people hound you into a certain mindset.

You could be right about your brain justifying it - that's how we stay addicted to PMO. These could just be regular withdrawal signs.

 

hi Did you see the thread I sent a link to? It should be gone entirely after not much longer than a week if you try it.

 

I've been there too. Literally like an hour ago (I just relapsed). Just make sure you treat it as a one time thing next time

 

I feel so sad for you I am crying right now. Look buddy. I know it's hard. But if you want to do it, then you have to do it no matter what it takes. I know our brains have self-destructive desires. But you have to stop that overcome you and enjoy the journey. My friend gave me this advice when I said I don't want to go to gym, he said - Keep telling yourself you don't want to do it but don't stop. Just don't stop. If you fall start again. You will soon start hating femdom soon and then it will be just Vanilla soft foot fetish left. Your thoughts will change from your wife dominating you to your wife teasing you with her feet before sex.

 

Your theories are really wierd. Will you explain how serotonin cures femdom?

 

The links are in my profile if interested.

 

Maybe the stress from college is contributing to your desire to watch porn?

 

I exactly know where you're in. It's now 2 years since I've watched such a vid the last time and it is still haunting me regularly.
When an urge comes up all those fantasies go crazy in my head, but when I'm in a completely clear state of mind and I think about them, it's like I can't believe that there was a time I was into that kind of stuff.
Sexuality is probably the most powerful force in a human being, hence this shit creeps into the deepest layers of your brain and really makes you question who you really are.
Don't give into that shit, even though it probably takes years that it will eventually go away, it gets easier to abstain as time goes on. If you can make 6 months without it, you should be over the worst, but you have to stay vigilant all the time and can not let your brain trick you back into that rabbithole.

 

Yeah right, even me. It's almost like one year passed without even knowing and we are still struggling with this mess....

 

Some years back I read some case studies about female rape victims that indicated that it was the women that had rape fantasies before the event were more traumatised and less resilient then those that never had such fantasies. The disparity between enjoyment and the assault made it more difficult to come to terms with what happened.

The irony here is that you are taking this so serious, that it is more likely to be traumatizing. Another irony is that, if the dominant woman is a virtuous person, she will not want to take advantage of a person with emotional problems. If you go in with the mindset you are expressing here, you are going to attract abusers. Abusers can smell blood in the water, they do not disqualify, they attack.