Fleshlight possible issue any advice?

Seriously?! I almost think getting a hooker would be better than reducing yourself to a flesh device. Come on bro.

 

If this guy is sincere there's no need to be a jerk about it. He's having issues and is on this site to get help, not for other PMO users to berate him.

@nf4y You can look at testosterone studies online to get a better understanding of what levels are normal. If using a fleshlight is having negative affects on your life then it can be a problem. For example, if you're compromising time for sleeping, exercising, socializing, etc. Considering that you're on this site makes me think you're worried about it.

If it was only once a month or something it'd probably not be a big deal, but 6-8 hours a week seems like a solid chunk of time... but you're the best judge of that since you know your schedule.

 

I see you’re in need of some replies but I think many of us aren’t at that age yet and can’t really give you anything of substance. I know you mentioned the doc saying your T levels are in good standing but you might want to look at the numbers again.

The way doctors look at normality in testosterone levels is by a large margin. Anywhere from 200-1100 is considered the normal range yet that is a substantial difference. The average man today has the testosterone levels of the average 70 year old man 70 years ago so I would largely look at this. If you’re anything under maybe 600 ng/dL I would look at TRT which stands for testosterone replacement treatment. It’s not steroids, however it just supplements your T levels on what you were at say 35 years ago depending on the dosage.

btw, don’t listen to that other guy about a pocket pussy being worse than a hooker. He’s being hyperbolic and is just messing with you. Don’t get a hooker because that’s just retarded and that shit will bite back depending on what they are riddled with.

 

Be celibate for long enough I think it could make you more willing to do it with your partner. Fleshlight is just fapping.

 

I have no idea what is normal for you age, myself being 27, but when you say a session with the fleshlight is 2-3 hours, is that with only a single orgasm? Are you deliberately holding back your orgasm, or does it just take that long? If you are holding back, then I'd advice you to stop doing so. With such a long session, you are going to get desensitized. It will take more and more for you to orgasm. Also, viewing porn while doing it is NOT helping the problem, quite the contrary. Are you also browsing different porn videos? How many could you go through in 2-3 hours I wonder? The stimulus is a crazy overload for you.

Looking forward to hearing more about your situation

 

You said you don’t think you’re addicted to porn? Try to quit for 30-60 days and then tell me if you’re addicted. You never know what you addicted to until you have to give it up. Get rid of the porn and watch things get better

 

I've heard a reduced sex drive can be a seasonal thing, and can personally vouch for that.
As the days are getting longer and we are hopefully allowed to travel more without restriction, that will provide more opportunites to get outdoors and soak up some sunlight, which has both mood boosting and libido boosting effects.
Likewise exercise is also a great testosterone booster. The more vigouros the better. Sex drive is tied to overall health and fitness so when you improve in those areas you improve your sex drive as a result. Diet should not be overlooked either. It can make a huge difference to sex drive as well as overall health.

I'd try to avoid using the fleshlight, or indeed anything that is "artificial" especially for such prolonged periods, you are basically training your body to respond to a synthetic device and physically desensitising yourself.
Ditto the porn. It doesn't really matter whether you think you are addicted or not, porn still trains the brain to respond to certain imagary on a screen rather than what it is meant to respond to i.e. warmth of a human touch and intimacy.
If you are lucky enough to have a partner than ditch the porn and the toys entirely and try and get into exploring being intimate with each other, not necessarily with the end goal of sex, but just enjoying time with each other's physical touch. You could do any number of things such as massage, bath/shower together, just kissing/cuddling etc. It won't happen overnight but given time your brain and body will start to change what it responds to and you will start to look forward to and enjoy sex and intimacy again.

 

surely the doctor gave you some paperwork? Do you not have a physical copy to look at? Doctor visits could take forever, especially nowadays; if you have a physical copy id be eager to look at it now than wait for a doctor visit. He could say you’re perfectly healthy at 300 ng/dL which is terrible. Whatever it is, you may want to look more into it online while you await your results. I believe the subreddit on Reddit is r/testosterone that has men of all age groups centered around trt that can give you much better information than I can. You may want to create a post on there and look for advice rather than a masturbation forum. This seems like an age related issue and that forum will give you better insight. Also, there is a YouTuber by the name, “more plates more dates” which will detail you the specifics and the science behind it all and if it’s right for you. Take care old man.

 

Try to quit, every addict is like "I am not addicted - I can go without it" I thought so too. Even though I am younger than you I used to escape problems in my past relationships to PMO and it only caused thing to get worse since I could not perform in bed. God bless you. EDIT: I sounded harsh in the first version of this text, I am sorry. I hope this can help you. I also recommend watching youtube videos about porn and its effects on sexual drive. Also reading about others on this site could be informational. I do not think your age is the problem if you still have desire to watch p*rn every now and then with fleshlight. If you did not do that and still felt like not wanting anything then it could be a problem - or a flatline. Hopefully you will do some research on this since I truly believe it could change your entire life.

 

I know for me at 45 I ended up losing almost all the sensation in my penis. At times I couldn’t tell if it was being touched, sucked or if I was inside her and hard. It would come and go and ended up being a bulging disk in my neck. After surgery boom it was like the light switch got flipped on and extra bright, lol. It slowly got worse so I didn’t notice an acute issue related to my spine. Afterwards I had to work on exfoliating the head of my penis for better sensation. That has done wonders.