Porn use reduced or worsened when in a relationship with an attractive girl

So I include this info only for the help of the poster but I'd have to say my wife is actually pretty close to my physical ideal. And she has only gotten more so in the 5 years since weve been married. I've always been attracted to very 'all American' looking girls and also very physically fit women and my wife fits both of those descriptions. Lots of ppl have told her she looks a bit like Emma Stone and she also has since we've been married left her corporate job to teach yoga. So in short she gets a lot of attention. Ever since I was a young kid and stumbled on a figure competition on ESPN I was fascinated but the way the women looked like cheerleaders mixed with superheroines from the comics I read and always thought.... I'd love to be married to a woman that looked like that... they almost looked liked statues well... my dream sort of came true... a year or so ago my wife and I went to a fitness expo and we stopped to look at the girls competing on the stage. My wife looked at the women up there and turned and said to me 'I'd like to do that... I actually think I could beat these girls.' I couldn't believe it... If my 12 year old could high 5 me he'd have given me a pat on that back... so I'm now with my physical ideal from my boyhood and what do I do as soon as I got home? Opened up my browser and began fapping to other women... this was actually my wake up call. I always thought if the women I was with looked a certain way I'd be free of my addiction but I realized my addiction had nothing to do with what I was attracted to and was more of a way for me to avoid... avoid pressures in my life... true intimacy with my SO etc... so nno I don't think attraction breaks the addiction because the addiction has more to do with you then the person you are with. Hope that helps.

 

Hey, just wanted to put my 2 cents in real quick; I waited to have sex until after I was married because of my religious beliefs. But I was struggling on and off with pornography. I tried to tell myself it would get better once I was able to have sex, but in reality, that wasn't true. 6 years later and I'm still struggling with my issues and being with my attractive wife didn't help much at all; It's an addiction that's hard to break free from and having a relationship with an attractive female isn't enough on it's own to break it. Just figured I would tell you my experience with it, because I used to think it would be cured after marriage.

 

One other aspect to think about here is when I was in school there were no hotter women then Cindy Crawford, Halley Berry and Pam Anderson and all I believe were cheated on by their SOs. Which is just a way of saying thinking Ill be happy when I have a SO who looks a certain way its just another type of avoidance.

 

Many, many men think this. My husband thought this. We, too waited until marriage and he literally turned me down 2 days into our honeymoon. He already had de and I remember thinking “ is sex supposed to take this long? When he took my virginity! Lol. I was very naive, I knew a lot about sex from my parents, but not how long it should take, or not take. This turned into years of him telling me no while he jacked off in secret. Now that he’s been actively working recovery and no porn/masturbating he genuinely enjoys sex and is a far better lover.

 

My porn use often drops off in the beginning of a new relationship. But only in the beginning. Once things get routine I go right back like a bear to honey.

 

50+ years old here, three wives, girlfriends in between. all of them were very attractive and my ideal body types. I guess I was lucky with that. turns out almost all of them were sex addicts like me so all that was real fun, but that wasn't so good for the long term relationship. guess what else? I PMO'd constantly throughout my entire life. didn't make one bit of difference how hot they were and how much sex we had. I was (am) totally hooked on the PMO rush. now 28 days clean - longest streak of my adult life.

 

When I have a partner, I forget what porn is

 

Yeah having a girl or hot girl hahah makes a difference. A girl/wife that is willing to work with you through the porn addiction is everything. Can legit make or break a relationship or your progress.

 

Might depend on the person. Personally, I've experienced both scenarios: complete withdrawal from p in some cases and continued or increased usage in others. Granted, I'd have to incline towards little to no use if she's very attractive, you're really into her *and* you have a solid, active relationship. Nevertheless, the addiction can come back with a vengeance later on in the future, and will worsen if you let it.

 

attractive doesn't solely mean "looks" MEN find when a women knows and cares about them personally attractive. BOYS mostly care about looks.

 

When Jennifer Lopez and Halle berry can’t keep a marriage in tact you know it’s deeper than surface level looks. The hahaha was just because it seems superficial to break a girl down on the basis of her looks alone. I’ve never chatted with a girl online or on cam that looked better than my girl yet I still did it. I’ve also told my girl about porn and this site and it helps. You might be surprised at how strong some girls are.

 

No problem, brother. This is an interesting topic and I'll try to elaborate a bit more:

I'm in my mid-forties and would say I've been addicted, in varying degrees, to pmo for over 30 years. I was most addicted from around age 16-22 (several times per week). At the moment, I wouldn't consider myself 'badly' addicted as it's a monthly thing and I can go for many, many months w/o it. Longest streak was 3 years, a few years ago. My addiction picked up again over the past year and specifically, over the last 4 months or so. My main problem is that my preferences have been changing from women, to women and ts, and now almost exclusively ts. I used to feel guilt about this but now I don't and that's worrying me. Would consider myself totally hetero and have always been with women, but the ts porn is doing a number on me and making me consider things I never thought I would.

Regarding your next question, I would have to start by saying that most my ex's were similar in facial attractiveness (8-9/10). However, I would say the girl's physique made a major difference; I had little or no interest in pmo when the girl was slimmer and more fit lol. Then again, that's just me. There's a guy from NoFap on YouTube, can't remember his name, who made a video with his very hot girlfriend stating that he still had a very bad addiction despite being with her. Other guys here have echoed the same. With all the variables involved in this issue, and all the personal preferences and degrees of addiction that exist, it's hard to predict how any one individual will manage his or her own situation.

I think we as men are biologically programmed to seek out abundance when it comes to mating. Porn offers that to us, making us believe that we've hit the evolutionary jackpot. Our dopamine goes through the roof and voila, an insidious addiction is born. Ridding oneself of pmo requires the utmost commitment over the long term. Having had this addiction for so long has made me realize that I never should have started, and that I never want another adverse addiction in my life ever again.

 

My thoughts on this. Comparing two recent girlfriends.
First one

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was incredibly hot. Like my good god. She had better body than my favourite pornstar at that time. And I loved her solely because of it and she knew it. It wasn't real love i think. Anyway, I loved her nudes and she loved sending them to me. I then realized that this whole relationship was basically just a different form of PMO for me. Told her and broke up with her. I knew I had been ruining two lives.

Second one was beautiful

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- not necessarily "hot" but beautiful and kinda cute. Nice body but not oversexualized.

I liked her mainly for her personality. Told her almost in the beginning what I'm going through. She helped me with it. Eventually we broke up, but I'd say we made a ton of good memories. I also took a different approach. Told her asap that I don't want her to send me any lewds. I wanted to respect her.
My two cents

 

Fascinating. Different people run from different things.

 

I think everyone is different. However, you have only to look at the number of married/divorced men who are struggling to realize that for many it doesn’t help the addiction. In many cases it can make it worse, ie the stress of marriage or chaser effect etc. no matter how “ hot” your partner is, at some point there will always be someone more attractive.