Feeling Sexually Frustrated

Hey! I understand the sexual frustration and it absolutely blows (or doesn't?) I wouldn't say your stupid valuing his sexual needs but you do need to actually sit down with the dude and ask him "the fuq bruh" and explain your feelings about it. You tell him in an easy and understanding way, you guys are in this together after all.
Too fast or too slow is really a question only you and he can answer.

I'm in a situation where I really want to please the shit out of my gf but she has incredibly low libido due to the pill. I honestly think it's fun pleasuring her and I look foward to it, maybe he just needs to open up his mind to it?

Hope this helped somehow

Cheers!

 

Only a heavy porn user behaves in this way.
Cares only about his pleasure and pleasuring his partner does not even crosses his mind.
If I'm right , he will sooner or later go for another woman. Hope I'm wrong.

 

Wait . You are just 19 kiddy. Aren't you too young to carry the burdens of married folks.

 

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yea that's a def red flag right there, Is that the same guy you asked out? he can be either an insecure guy or maybe even a jerk, but you dont know that yet, so why not have a honest conversation with him?? tell him how you feel about this and see how he reacts?
there may be something else to it. Having honest conversations like that would only be good for the relationship. I hope he opens up. Goodluck!

 

Hey, I won't give any specific advice since there are so many factors to consider of which I have no understanding. But I can remember my first girlfriend, and one mistake I made was that I overlooked the things that would turn out to be dealbreakers for me because I was sooooo excited to have somebody to love. I know it's hard to see beyond the passions of a new relationship, but try to keep a cool head and be honest with yourself about what you need from a guy. You mentioned that you "love hard" and give so much to the people you love, and I can relate to that. I did the same thing in my past relationship, and while I don't regret it, I definitely sometimes felt that my love wasn't being reciprocated. If you ignore the feeling of not getting the love that you give, you may end up becoming frustrated and resentful down the line. Now that I have learned that lesson, I hope that my next girlfriend will be as crazy about me as I would be about her.

Also, I don't know your feelings about sex, but I'd be careful about how far you go with someone this early on. I have heard from girls who had sex with their boyfriends (who by the way were watching porn) and then they felt a lot of regret that they were so intimate with someone who in retrospect didn't respect them very much. In my view, watching porn (and not having a problem with it) is disrespectful to your partner, not to mention it often exacerbates insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. It's basically allowing yourself to get virtually cucked. Imagine a girl is in your room and your boyfriend is standing in front of her masturbating while he's looking at her. And then you're just sitting watching. That's almost what porn is, it just happens to be digital. I know some people think that's fine, but to me it seems really damaging. It basically is a way that the boyfriend (or gf depending on the situation) can get power over you. First it's getting you to be ok with his porn use, then it's him getting you to be ok with texting other girls, and then it can turn into "Honey, I'd prefer you not cheat on me, but I know that you have needs and I can't meet them, so go ahead." I don't mean to cause you anxiety about this, but I just hope that some of my opinions help you come up with your own ideas/help you evaluate where you stand.

 

Is ok to give in a relationship. The idea is that both of you give to each other. If you are the only one giving then this is not good.

If your needs are not been met why are you with this guy? The idea of getting in a relationship with a person is to get to know him a lot first and after a couple of months of really having great time together (in all aspects) you choose to start a relationship with him because you know he meet your needs.

Always look at he other person actions, not their word. With your actions you are showing him that you love him, with his actions he is telling you that he don't love you.

you do that because you are making the effort to please him, because you are into him. If he would be into you, he will be doing the same thing. the fact that he is not doing it.. let you know that he is not into you an is not willing to make the effort to please you.

Unfortunatelly, the answer is yes. You can do that one nigth and another nigth he can put your first. But if only their need are always putt first then you are giving, and giving and getting nothing in return. That's the worst "deal" ever.

Do you want a guy that need to be tell that he should try and satisfy you in bed or a guy that make you go crazy in bed with amazing sex and satisfing all your needs? This guy is not into you enough to make the effort to give you what you want in bed. The best you can do here is to move on and look for another man that is really into you and I can bet you there are man out there that are going to be a lot more into you and are going to be a lot more fun and enjoyable to have sex with them.

If you still what to work this out with this man... next time you are in bed with him tell him what you want.. if he make excuses for not doing it, tell him that this is not working for you sexualy speaking, that if he is not going to make the effort to please you in bed then it would be better to end things rigth there. Let him show you with actions in bed that he is going to put effort to please you. If he don't do anything and make you a lot of promises that he will do it, know for a fact that words are taken by the wind. Trust in actions, not words.

Not at all. Sex comes before a relationship. You want to know if you have good skin in bed with the other person before getting into a relationship. Are you going to get into a relationship or marriage with a person that is horrible to have sex with? not at all.. take your time to know the other person before getting into a relationship with them.

 

Oh dear! You would never say this if you had read how porn addicts view their partners. Their love making is to a very large extent inspired by porn. They can't be satisfied with normal sex and will always want something odd that can get them off.
They do not caress or fondle their partners , just penetrate them like a thing.
Unfortunately even the folks here on Nofap have their sex life influenced by porn, I saw a thread few days back which talked glorifyingly of handjobs and bj. In real sex the man will never approve of hj.
It is a natural instinct for males to want to satisfy their partner not to be satisfied by their partner. The porn exposed generation of men are going the other way.
In your relationship you are doing what he should be doing ! No wonder you are frustrated. Ask if he can quit porn for you - things will become crystal clear. If not then you are a thing he is using. After he is done with you he will move to the next and this will go on.

 

"Am I stupid for putting a man's sexual needs over mine?"
Why to separate it in man and woman? Ask yourself that.
I think it would get clearer if we let that aside. I don't think that's wrong per se, but, why is he negating? That part of the story seems lost.

"How do I tell him I feel that our relationship is one sided and that I would like him to do things for me? Do you think a month and a half is to fast to get sexual in a relationship?"
I would ask subtlely, why is he not engaging so much in the activity. Is he tired? Is he lazy? etc.
If you knew the guy beforehand I would tell not at all, if you don't, maybe. People act differently when in a relationship and when out of it anyway so it is hard to read their conduct.