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7 years without pmo

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Mr Eko, Mar 23, 2021.

  1. ZiguShar

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    i wonder if your desinterest is to do with a shrugging of the shoulders , a giving up of being able to have sex controlled ... you dont care because she cant have it so its best to give up? To lose that part of yourself in the interests of a peacefull , more tranquil if less eventfull and exciting life ?

    Of course as you age , sexual interests can decline even in men, maybe you are one such, but clearly in the past you were very interested in it so i look at this dichotomy hypersuality or very very active sex life to a shift in abstention ... with reservations , it feels forced , unnatural. A state of being that perhaps for older gents can be maintained , but not for the younger folks. All or nothing, 8 or 80 approaches dont seem natural to me, they feel artificial and inevitably doomed. And i wonder if deep deep down you dont wish you could have a happy satisfying sex life , with control, with pleasure but without becoming chaotic and involving prostitutes and endless masturbation etc which seems to be what caused you those feelings years ago. Several of those things ( escorts, masturbation , several partners occasionally ) are done by lots of people who dont suffer , quite the opposite... what made it bad for you and people like you is the crux of the problem i think... best of luck then.
     
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  2. Mr Eko

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    When I was your age I wished so very much but now ? Do you really mean that sex can be always as exciting as when you are young? Two old bodies, often overweighted in the Western culture ... what do you think is exciting about it? Comparing to two bodies of attractive young couple. Sex is for young people because of aestetics , beauty... because of children. It's like being on war. Do you think that the war is for old soldiers too? What's the use of overweighted, 50+ soldiers on war? They can run with heavy equiptment 100 metres and are finished. They can be a good cannon fodder. The same with sex, it becomes meaningless with aging process.
     
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  3. ZiguShar

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    No perhaps not the same obviously and not as exciting and new but there are , they do exist, couples who in their 60's and even 70's have sex and enjoy it very much. Or individually, men older men who have sex with younger women , be it an escort or a lady friend, and both love it. People over 70 aside, the true elderly, you are not even there sir, youre 51! You are not old, your spirit may be old, or used to feeling old and tired but you are only middle age, or a bit older than middle age... My brother is only 8 years younger than you and he looks and acts as if he is 33!

    Older people can and are sexy and attractive too , either with younger partners or at the same age, im sorry im not of that age but i have never ceased to be atracted to older people than myself. Just because you have more grey hair it doesnt mean you can not be beautifull, i know a female doctor, shes 59, white hair , and shes beautifull and attractive as well. Older people ( which you are not ) also have a desire for feeling loved, appreciated, physically touched as well.. im sure you do too deep down.

    Of course if one is overweight, heavy set, not that physically fit, maybe with some food issues, image issues... that makes it all different and more difficult and indeed i can see how sex can be unnapealing at that age. Take a look at this gentleman down here, do you think he looks and feels withered, tired, unnapealing, undeserving of sex and love and an active lifestyle, because thats all we are talking about as well, being ACTIVE , to refuse to give up and die or let die a part of ourselves , just because we age ... and mind you you are not old! My father was getting old when he died and he was 26 years older than you sir and yet he maintained an active sex life until he was well in his 60's.

    So unless you have already given up on several apsects of life...and would entertain the possibilty , that you might be able to awaken the sleeping giant of fiery passion and affection and love , by changing your life, your body, your image and health, i can only advice that you go for it! You only die once, everything that happens before that, make sure you are well alive and awaken for it! 092718paris3015-1000x1500.jpg

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  4. Mr Eko

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    Yes, you're right.
    If I looked like these two men on the photos I could change my mind. But how many men like these two you can see on streets, in malls, on the beach. I can see tons of overweigh 30+ people or even younger. What is on these photos is not common. It's like supermodels among women.
    But I don't say it's impossible in my case to look so. It would demand lots of effort - the first - to loose 20 - 25 kilos and sport. You inspired me with these photos. Maybe I'll try to shape myself in this direction but it will be very difficult to lose and maintain good weight. You suprised me.
     
  5. Hadrian3

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    That's truly a feat. I congratulate you.

    I'll try to make some use of the 12 step program. Thanks.

    I am not religious. Since I was a teen I have been virtually a non-theist. Recent researches says half of the Iranian people have lost their religion. That's what happens when you live under ISIS rules. I guess it was a bit easier if I was religious (maybe not). But that's fine anyway.
     
  6. arkad1

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    That's amazing. i falled, very slowly, after a year of no porn...
     
  7. J053H32n4nd32

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    I'm getting close to seven years of not having sex. Not having sex is a better life than having sex.
     
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    Same, the reason why i pmo was because of childhood trauma. Ive been doing so for a decade and im 22 now. I have only thought of it as an issue since covid hit. But my life feels better since ive stopped. I do get days like today where i feel so sad thinking about my past, that shit just brings me down a lot. And its like the reason why im hurting today are because of my childhood trauma (my father). I just wish shit was different man. but oh well, i too have found religion as a way to have hope for a better future and to heal. Hope it goes well for you all.
     
  9. @Different Built don't listen to this guy. Sex is powerful and sacred, and should be ideally done with someone you really care about. But first, do not be brainwashed by hollywood and this over sexualized culture. If you want to be the average joe, then go out, date, have sex with whoever. But if you want to be different, one of the greatest, then you should control your lust, and store your sexual energy for a long while. At 19, the best thing you can do is be celibate and on nofap for many years, i would advise for the rest of your twenties if you can. Don't be like so many other men who regret having chased ass during their formative years. If you do what I am advising, you really will be "built different".

    Be careful with sex. its not just a recreational activity, it binds you very closely to the other person, and cause one to get derailed from their purpose for years.. partially because they carelessly fritter away their most potent energy. Look at Mike Tyson, who was the heavy weight champion during his 5 + years without sex... and his downfall after he started fooling around with women. women weaken the legs. And those who want to make great discoveries and expand their minds and potential to the fullest, should do brahmacharya for years on end. You always have time later, women will always be there waiting for you later. So why not max out now, and the women will be there for you at the end of the finish line, once you are a king

    And PS this has nothing to do with religion or conservatism. This is about becoming the best version of yourself. Many will not understand and that is fine. But I hope you see it
     
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  10. lol gotem!!! The guy won't understand... maybe one day he will see the light
     
  11. This was an amazing read!

    I've committed myself to at least one more year of semen retention. Originally my goal was merely to kick my masturbation and sex addiction but the further I go, the deeper truths that are uncovered to me. This is one of those things that people do not have the capacity to understand unless they have taken a long break from any sexual activity.

    I must admit that I do not know what my ultimate end game is. I had planned to start dating again at some point in my life but maybe I'll discover that this lifestyle has far too many benefits to give up.
     
  12. Ubermen

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    @Mr Eko , I have to second @Roady ’s words in saying that it has been a delight and blessing to read about your success for 7 years. I completely agree with you when you say that the causes of pmo lie deep in childhood experiences and inadequate coping mechanisms for negative emotions.

    I appreciate your gentle approach and kind engagement with different viewpoints on this thread. This shows that your abstinence is genuine and reflects the remarkable inner transformation that you have accomplished. Wish you the best for 10 years and beyond!

    Any tips you share here are welcome!
     
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