Edging

You are right. Here is the science: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-if-i-use-porn-without-orgasm

 

I agree that edging (with or without the big O) is M, and if a man's going to do no PMO, he can't edge.

However I have a a world of experience with edging, specializing in denial of the O, because the O is the end (the prolactin release that kills dopamine), and I never wanted it to end. I've tried M cessation many times in my life before I became an edger and long before there was NoFap or even the Internet. I'd go cold-turkey from a routine of typical male fapping. It was always intensely difficult and unpleasant ("sheer hell"), and my record duration was 41 days. Then, I became an O-avoiding edger to the point that I'd typically edge for an hour or so daily but had only eleven O's in 2014, all by accident while edging. I'd look at P, but rarely while edging, because it increased the danger of O. My drug of choice was the edge.

Now, here I am, a new fapstronaut in hard mode, 27 days since I quit M (edging without O) and 66 days since my last O. How's it working out for me? Well, I can't believe how easy it is this time! Sure, there are urges--powerful ones--and not a hint of flatline yet--but I'm staying strong and clean. I keep wondering why it's so easy this time, and I can only think that it has to do with my former edging. After all, we edgers know a thing or two about self-denial! I used to say that it takes a strong man to turn his back on an O that's about to happen and just walk away. My theory is that the strength of will learned from doing just that is now very useful as I promise myself each day when I awaken with morning wood that "I will not fap today."

So, Aghast, just keep using your edger's strength of will to stay clean. NoFap! Isn't it great?

 

Surpassed 50 days, IGY it is inspring to me to see the number 51 for some reason!

 

What goes up must come down?

 

i just edge after a 4 days streak is it a relapse or just some thing i can recover from???

 

Edging is masturbating, so it's a technical violation. However, the orgasm/ejaculation that you didn't have is what would have caused most of the negative effects, so there's not much that requires "recovery." In the end, it's your streak, so you make the rules on how to count things. If you count it as a clean restart, you've only lost four days. The important part is that you should avoid edging, because it releases dopamine. You want to starve the PMO addiction of dopamine during your reboot.

 

Whether you O or not, you’ve still wasted an hour or more from your life, fuelled the porn industry that drives social promiscuity (hell, there’s even this “community upload” trend going on recently!) and sex trafficking and exposed yourself to potential humiliation if you get caught somewhere and some time.

I don’t really get how people’s primary motivation to abstain is the “energy boost” which, by the way, is probably mostly just placebo.

It may have something to do with having just spent a NIGHT on an absolutely unfulfilling activity?

I used to edge too in my darkest years. I remember it feeling as if you were under a spell. This silly internal dialogue: “I should stop now”, “Damn, I’m about to relapse again...”, “Okay, I stopped but there’s been some semen leak, so is this actually a relapse?!”.

 

Does edging a relapse?