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Relapsed after 38 days. All my progress gone.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by oe123, Jan 30, 2021.

  1. Jan 30, 2021 #1
    oe123

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    I am so ashamed of myself. After intentionally seeking out a movie with sex scenes and watching a lesbian sex scene intentionally yesterday, I decided to call it a relapse after 38 days. I was devastated, and I thought that because I have to start again I thought there would be no harm in watching and masterbating to porn. So I watched a scene and had a orgasm. I am so disappointed in myself, but I know I will learn and be better from this.
    Will watching this one Porn scene ruin all my progress that I have made, or has or my progress been diminished. I need answers please.

    Finally I will say that this will be the last time I ever watch porn.
     
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  2. Jan 30, 2021 #2
    HelperX

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    Watching a porn scene completely ruins your progress. You need to restart. Porn just makes things worse. Stay strong brother!
     
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  3. Jan 30, 2021 #3
    Slowlybutsurely

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    Don’t beat yourself up, slipping up is all part of the process. Dust yourself down and go again stronger! YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Give yourself credit, 38 days is a great achievement! Now you know what to do so that you won’t slip again and remember how it makes you feel.

    well done on the 38 days!
     
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  4. Jan 30, 2021 #4
    oe123

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    I hear all you said mate. Thanks for the advice.
     
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  5. Jan 30, 2021 #5
    oe123

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    Thank you for replying and yes I will be stronger going forward. Love brother.
     
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  6. Mar 24, 2021 #6
    Renect

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    Hey dude. How are you doing?
     
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  7. Mar 29, 2021 #7
    oe123

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    I’m sorry for the late reply, I just logged on after a couple of weeks off here. I’m fine tho how are you doin?
     
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  8. Mar 29, 2021 #8
    mohammedabdulraheem7095

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    Hi wanna start together again??
     
    mohammedabdulraheem7095, Mar 29, 2021
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  9. Mar 29, 2021 #9
    theMotivator

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    Progress cannot be ruined. The fact that you got so far is part of the progress. Now you learn from your mistakes and move on. Don't kill yourself over it, because it will just lead you to depression and relapse again. Just continue and hopefully next time you will be more alert :)
     
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  10. Mar 29, 2021 #10
    Mr.Tony

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    Last year during February i did 30 days of NO PMO and i failed.

    Back to PMOing and after a Few Months on i decided to do it again. Yes i did it!

    28 Days on and i Failed again - Back to PMOing.

    For a Week or so. Later i decided it will be Enough for good no more going back to it! And i mean it 100% .

    Today i'm 170 Days of NO PMO.

    It takes Real Determination to go through it!

    You are 38 days on for your first time, not bad for you my friend, at least you fought a good battle, You got my respect! Congratulations on that!

    Now focus on staying away from it for good, If iade it 170 days, you could too!

    See you in one year from now my friend!
     
    Mr.Tony, Mar 29, 2021
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  11. Mar 29, 2021 #11
    luckydog

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    @oe123 I'm new to this, after a long relationship (40+ years) with PMO I am done with it. (More here in New to NoFap.)

    JK Emezi (no affiliation, I happened to discover his podcast the first day after a long night of argument / discussion with my spouse after being 'discovered' yet again) said that you need to look at a relapse as DATA. Information to use, not a club to beat yourself up with.

    Over the many years I've negotiated with myself with PMO, now it's time for me to find (and more importantly use) all the tools - communication with my spouse openly and honestly about PMO or triggers or small steps; my accountability partner and I now emailing 2x per day; thinking about talking with a close friend about my struggle with PMO for all those years; setup my first appointment with a therapist in my entire life today; starting some additional healthy habits. I signed up for the NoFap's sessions, first one this Thursday.

    Will I relapse? I could easily. Anything different this time? So many different things.

    1. Look forward, OP, not backward. It's not about willpower, it's about understanding yourself, and feeding the prefrontal cortex and starving the limbic system. (I just read this, and am still thinking about it.)
     
    luckydog, Mar 29, 2021
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