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333 days no PMO, semen retention

Cold showers and don't see girls on
screens or on the streets. Sense control is key.

 

52 days in here, some quick tips:

1. Keep your door open as much as possible
2. Delete social media if you don't use it to network or meet new people
3.If you get an urge, realize it, accept it and do nothing (you will calm down after a bit)
4.Take cold showers they kill urges and make you feel like an animal
5.Keep your room clean
6.Workout and use your time and energy on something rather than the pmo you would usually do
7.Don't peak ever; you can look in real life if you see someone attractive but don't stare like a creep lol
8.Remeber why your doing it (was it because of ED, PE, low confidence, bad anxiety etc)
9.Remeber that healing takes time, you won't really see the benefits until about a month in
10. IMO, after the 3 week mark urges are a lot easier to deal with. Some days are harder than others but on the whole its not as bad.
11.Its not just about fapping, use this to become disciplined in other areas of your life as well (relates to eating healthy, working out, doing things that step you out of your comfort zone)

 

Force and willpower only get you so far. If you think the answer is to just "try harder" or "do more", then you are mistaken.

 

Well if you want my honest opinion, I think that "willpower" is not a very useful or accurate concept. We can't just decide how much we want to do something, or how motivated we are at any given time. There has to be a genuine desire to quit our addictive behavior, just like there has to be a cause for us to become addicted in the first place. And I don't just mean wanting to quit - we all want to quit. What I mean is that we have to get ourselves to a place where we no longer feel, on a deep level, that our addictive behavior benefits us any more. Unfortunately, that is a long and difficult process.

I believe that quitting addictions often involves a process of self-discovery. Rather than giving ourselves commands, or resolutions, or motivational speeches, I think we need to look objectively inward at who we are and why. Most of the time (this is just a guess), it seems that we are dealing with way more than just addiction. There are "Loneliness" and "Self-Improvement" sections on this forum for a reason.

 

Got to 182 days no porn. Stumbled first week of March but I’ve been so busy with stuff completely unrelated to recovery that I haven’t even checked how long it’s been until just this moment.

And that’s Key. Go put your mind to something else completely unrelated to nofap that tests you, that fucken terrifies you and step by step accomplish stuff related to it, showing yourself that you can do it. Appreciating the ups / downs of that thing. Then do the same thing for something else.

 

You bring up a really good point here. Fear is a very powerful emotion, and overcoming it can often make us feel so confident that changing our poor habits becomes an easier task. For example, when I joined the USMC I suffered from severe social anxiety, and ever since then I have been able to convince myself to participate in social activities which I would have refused in the past.

 

Yes exactly. And fear can come from anything really. Go learn to dance, join a bootcamp, a high interval workout program, buy a house, move out of your parents, join a coding course for free, pay for a coding course and do it, go flirt with women with a mask on, embrace complete solitude and face your past, take on boxing, the list go on and on and on. And I know we have covid, but virtual equivalents to a lot of these things are popping up, it’s just a matter of looking.

In summary: Your goals with NoFap must be a side mission. Not the main Quest.

 

It means people usually fap when there door is closed and they have privacy. So if your in your room and have an urge keep the door open, it gets rid of that privacy you would normally have otherwise.

 

61 days no PMO
I think we all need to develop healthy habits in our lives. I use to:
- run at least three times a week or when I am bored
- meditate 10 minutes daily to clear my mind of dirty thougths
- read daily in order to avoid thinking about porn and to redirect my mind to the story of the book

I also stopped scrolling down facebook's news feed or stalking profiles of girls and I completely stopped using instagram because there are a lot of triggers.