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Using masturbation to prevent sex addiction & bad choices.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Bob8, Apr 5, 2021.

  1. Bob8

    Bob8 Fapstronaut

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    I've figured out that if i masturbate, i no longer desire sex for a day or two.

    I have a few situations with girls (fuck-buddy / friends with benefits) that aren't good for me, or them, because 1. there is never any emotional attachment for me, and straight after orgasm i just want to be alone and am very irritable (shame & guilt definitely tie into this) and 2. these weekly casual sex encounters usually evolves into them wanting something more out of it, a relationship, something deeper which i'm not ready to provide or explore due to lack of feelings.

    What i've started doing recently is justifying masturbating & looking at porn, because its stopping me from getting into these situations, where i feel i'm more at risk for hurting someone and feeling responsible, wasting my time, and potentially getting these women pregnant or contracting STI's.

    Basically i'm now choosing between sex addiction and porn addiction, and feeling like porn addiction could be the lesser of two evils, and at the moment, it seems like it could be the better option.. ideally, i'd like to kick both bad habits, anyone else dealing with something similar or have justified their actions with porn / masturbation due to it stopping them from bad actions regarding sex and women.
     
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  2. RiverBlue

    RiverBlue Fapstronaut

    When I was single, I definitely saw porn/masturbation as better and safer than random hookups. I saw it as a harmless substitute. I didn't recognize then I had a problem with it. I'm sure though that all that time fapping had an effect in getting me addicted to porn. So long term it may have been a bad choice.

    I'd suggest not trying to separate out these two issues though. Substituting one for the other may not get you where you want to be with either.
     
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  3. pmo and sex addiction go together because you will act out porn scenarios when it alone no longer satisfies you.

    Here on nofap 90 day hardmode no pmo and no sex is the way to go.

    Once you are rebooted sex is an option.

    You have stated that you are masturbating to tire yourself out before you engage in bad hookups.

    If you do the whole 90 days you can better yourself to get away from those bad relationships and be i a good place for a good relationship.
     
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  4. Bob8

    Bob8 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the replies fellas, feel like i'm losing my way with this a little, i had a good streak of 36 days, but since the relapse i've been finding it really hard to continue being strong.
     
  5. Freedom_from_PMO

    Freedom_from_PMO Fapstronaut

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    I was in a very similar situation when I felt that MO/PMO is keeping me from feeling urges to have risky sexual encounters and possible sex addiction. I felt that if I'll stop PMO I'll do something that I'll regret but nothing happened. For some time urges were really bad, but after a critical moment they were much easier to control. Now I do not worry about risky encounters, because I know that I can control myself. Also PMO damages your overall ability of self control. Yes, it is silencing the urge to have sex for a day or two, but it is also the cause of urges. Break the cycle. It is possible.
     
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  6. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    I just saw your profile picture a couple minutes ago about other thread you made and I don't know why I had the impression you were disconnecting from the nofap site, like your mind was in some other place. And now I read this.

    Call me crazy. We are kind of similar in a way.Take care Bob, hug.
     
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