Day 160- Still No Libido at all

To have a flatline that long ist fairly unusual. I've heard of long one up to 80 days, but 120 and still no desire is odd.
Don't get nervous, whatever you do, don't relapse to "test" your urge.
Have you been seeing or showing interest in any woman? Perhaps having a human connection with one might help. Not an expert here, but that might just help.

 

Not normal bro. Personally my libido got lower over time in my 116 day streak with only 3 years of PMOing so it makes me believe your dick just gets dead after not using it for so long. I bet it would work if you had sex

 

Some people take 3 years to heal their PAWS/flatline. It is normal.

 

Are you depressed?

 

This is def uncharted territory, I don’t have any idea what’s going on half of the time

 

I’m in the exact same boat as you man, let me guess, you started watching porn at an super early age? I’m 150 days deep in this fucking flatline or whatever you wanna call it at this point and it’s fucking hell. I recently lost my girlfriend because I had to keep making excuses on why she can’t see my penis. I really fucking thought after 5 months I would be able to reboot, but nope. Some other guys mentioned on the forum to use a girl to reboot by forcing an erection etc. but I’m not ready to tell a girl I have ED and make her do smthn like that, atleast not yet. I’ll wait a couple more months, maybe even a year before I do something like that.

 

Let me ask do you mean your d is dead dead dead or you get weak erection???

 

If you ask around, almost everyone will keep saying "You need to re-wire with someone", but not everyone has a partner, and when you're in flatline, there's no desire nor motivation to find anyone.

I have the same issue as you though I have yet to make it to Day 160. I have made it to triple digits several times, and every single time I eventually get so scared that I will relapse (MO) on purpose to temporarily recover libido until the next triple digit streak. It's interesting how most complain about urges, but I wish I actually had urges. On the bright side of things, this makes SR easy.

 

A question from me:

Why is it ‘odd’ to not be healed yet? Why is it ‘not normal’ that you still have no libido at day 160? Who are these streak numbers being compared to? Other people that not only live different lifestyles but are simply ‘built different’?

It is normal to feel frustrated, many of us here do, but it is not a valid reason to doubt your progress or doubt the process.

Get rid of your expectations. Get rid of the belief that you ‘should’ be healed by day ‘xxx’. Stick with the process, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If it takes 2 more months, so be it. If it takes 6 months, so be it. If it takes 1 year so be it! You owe it to yourself to see this through.

 

I didn't mean to imply, that a certain daycount for a flatline is unnormal. I understand the process is different for anyone.

My suggestion is to open up to a girl at some point, because this is an intimate issue and part of sex is being intimate, ergo sharing intimate information.
Now. I don't know, if that is a must, but I've read my fair share of stories.

At one point, one guy somewhere described something that stuck with me: If you're scared of sex, because you might ED and therefore avoid any form of it, or any form of arousal at all, then you can end up "training" to be asexual. Fear therefore cannot be in your way. If you ED, talk to her. You might even end up trying and failing with multiple girls.
Now the big question is, if it is therefore a Must to try with girls at some point. I don't know, if just staying abstinent for as long as you need might bring you to the point, where you eventually know you will not have any ED the next time you have sex. So take the route that you choose and don't take my word as written knowledge.

I however tried with girls, failed and talked to them. With some I had no problems at all, with others I had some. Eventually I didn't even feel shame or fear anymore, but was able to communicate my issue clearly. Most girls understood, had some guys EDing before. Sometimes it just happens.
That's how I learned to play around my ED, whenever it comes up. Sometimes I just restart the act of sex, or play around slowly, some other times, yea, I have to call it a day. I read about sexual massages and try these out lately and they're fun. I would describe it as a journey of rediscovering how I like sex.
But again I don't wanna claim any "deeper way of understanding" than anyone else here. I'm still on my journey aswell as you guys, my friends in crime, haha.

Don't do, what you feel uncomfortable with, but keep in mind to try to push yourself, when you feel the time has come.

Cheers.

 

I say the same thing in these kind of topics but in my experience (and you're not going to like this) all you can do is wait it out. I know it's frustrating and also kind of scary but you need to listen to your body, forcing sex on yourself when you don't want it is not going to do anything - actually, quite the opposite.

Don't listen to people saying you need to 'rewire', that's for those who have a functioning libido but one that is tied to screens and porn, you may need to go through that step at some point but right now your body and brain are still healing. If you broke your leg you don't get it working again by running, you leave it alone and let it repair itself. You are essentially in a sexual coma, when the time is right your body will let you know. If you were to go and have sex or MO now against your body's will then you might feel a short rebound of libido but it would soon leave again and will ultimately set your progress back.

 

What @OhWhenThe said might be spot on. Not to sound hostel towards those who promote the idea of rewiring, but rewiring too early comes at a very high price. That price being the hasty retreat of any progress you have amassed. Try and avoid falling into the trap of believing that you have to rewire with another to heal. That not doing so will turn you asexual. That taking your time and waiting will cause your manhood to drop off and separate from your body.

Sit back and monitor the journey.

 

"OhWhenThe" and "mentorr" - I agree with you guys. I wouldn't recommend rushing anything, if you just started your healing.
Pushing things too early will come at a price - it will take longer and be frustrating, instead of rewarding.

I've taken my time and then went on and started contact with women again. That's why I phrased what I said in my earlier post very carefully.
Take your own speed and listen to your own body and mind. Don't be scared, if it takes longer than anticipated. You have to make your own decisions at some point throughout that progress and take care to not lose motivation and hope and disciplin.

So keep it up OP. Cheers.

 

I'm about to complete 17 months of semen retention and libido is slowly returning.

The biggest changes within that time span have all been in the brain. I no longer have the urge to masturbate and my addiction influenced fetishes have completely disappeared.

My sexuality is on 100% pause until I've regained complete function. I've read too many stories about people who keep getting on and off the wagon, no thanks. For me it is one and done.

 

I agree, healing expectations are just another fear. Life owes me nothing so if it means having to do SR for the rest of my life, then so be it. At least there are no more urges and it's a small price to pay for living free of PMO.

 

What have you been doing to abstain from PMO?