Accountability for All

Thank you brother!
What you said about making the decision to PMO & missing the habit hit home for me, very relatable. Also how I ruined my last streak but *fist bump emoji* here's to another attempt, we can go further this time! Depending on how you look at it, this could be a little bit like reps at the gym, every day is a rep & as we get stronger and stronger we're capable of doing more days!


Day 3 btw
I'm trying to go for 20+

 

Absolute truth, Life doesn't change, but our capacity to deal with things take a boost with nofap.

 

Having heavy urges now, coming back bad looking at this forum cleared me. Thanks to all of you

 

I SWEAR BROOO!
this is wayyyy more destructive than people think it is, and it has a lot of potential to grow more realistic too..

even i'll do the best i can to help people battle this.

good to see you motivated mann! keep going

 

Hii today was my day 1 of nofap and it was good. I engaged myself in my work and followed the schedule. Brainfog affect is disturbing me but I will fight with it. Today I also attended brain rewire session and read the book your brain on porn it is a really good book you all should read it. But at last of my day I got strong urges but controlled myself.

 

Day 4. Today was a particularly bad day; I pulled an all-nighter to prepare for a test, and I looked at a few suggestive photos while studying. After school, I lay in bed trying to sleep and ended up fantasizing multiple times and then looked at some more photos. I can't spend my days on the brink of PMO and then feel good about it afterwards, so I'm considering this a relapse.
I thought more than once today about not owning these 'minor' offences here, but decided nothing short of complete honesty will help me fully recover.

 

Hey guys sorry I didn't wrote the last few days (again) as promised, so from tomorrow everday I promise!
Welcome to you guys who joined! I'm glad to have you here @yrjyrj That were some true words bro! And exactly discribing what were my last days like: a lazy mess with the exeption I knew I have to change but I were to lazy Anyways tomorow will be another day and I'll make the change from tomorrow on!
The last few days were completly free from urges and I think it'll stay for some days so I think I can clean up tomorrow and then keep my full attention on my daylie routine again.
You're awesome guys keep that in mind! Get rid of your guild and shame, rebuild your lives and feel good! Negativity will draw you back to PMO so keep in mind: I think YOU ARE AWESOME and the whole forum and your familys feel that way too! So stay strong my brothers and sisters! You got it

 

Hi Bro, glad you have decided to have an AP . https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?forums/accountability-partners.7/. You can post your requirement in this forum and i am sure somebody will reply. I encourage others who are struggling alone to have an AP . Dont depend on your willpower.

Hey bro ,
That some part never leaves. We can work on our discipline though . Your brain doesnt understand the right thing right now but with passing days u will be able to easily distinguish. Whenever such thoughts come say to urself its just my brain playing with me .

Hey bro , I have been there , had suicidal thoughts for a very long time even . I had opportunites to be with a girl i liked and she liked me back too ,this pmo made me think i dont deserve her . So i didnt talk to her . I had given up on my confidence . There r crazy number of opportunities that i have missed beacuse of this.

This PMO on the other hand has made me more spiritual , more understading of other problems. I dont get angry over small things. I like the quote by Sadhguru , there r no good or bad people , instead there r only joyous and miserable people . Whole lot of GOOD people can act nasty in miserable situation . So believe me PMO is part of you wanting to understand the deeper essence of life. It will make u understand things that people dont understand . It will make u a better person in the end . This pain will be our strength. PMO is not stopping you from exploring , u r exploring at the moment.

Someday u will have a deep conversation with a girl about life. She will find out how mature you are , how many hurdles u passed . And she will love you for it . Getting a girl is a POSSIBILITY. It depends on the work you put on yourself. You might think i have gone through so much , what more do i do ?

You wont get love until you love yourself. Your job is stressful , your habits are destructuve. You have to love your body, your brain. If you love them u set out health habits . Keep at it . You will find love bro one day.

So stop thinking i wont get this or that , u r not bad , u deserve things eqaully like others, u just have to work now in a manner that sets a good environment . Learn form these setbacks. Its going to take time , it wont happen quickly but if you take one day at a time with a positive attitude , nothing can stop you my bro.

dont get scared around a bunch of girls , we r all human with imperfections. Hide urs like everybody else with a conviction that i deserve everything and i will work and be better then before.

yes bro , i also think like that sometimes and even if i stop someone from PMO for even one day, it feels so amazing .

Yeah man brainfog is so carzy but keep urself occupied . watching a web seires is fine for entertainment(nothing sexaul) even but dont get too relaxed . be cautious. you have to pass these inital days somehow. things get better eventaully.

vow bro, i respect your honesty. after hard work , the brain will try to reward itself . so maybe u can replace that reward for something else. i use to practice 2 things before i go to bed . one is to tell myself how grateful i am to people in my life. second is what i have done today to improve myself . in your case u can tell urself that i have worked hard today, i m proud of that and it will help u to relax and sleep.

 

Guys I am glad to have reached out to you people. Its really awesome to be able to get this stuff out of my head, that has a therapeutic value in itself.
I think I am firm in my resolve. These two days were not that testing for me, maybe because I stayed off social media and focused on work. It sometimes nucleates in a moment of weakness. I drowned myself in good food.

@yrjyrj I will try to start exercising, lol. It just stresses me out, I feel a lot of pain in the start. You can imagine, I was running for 3-4 months in 2017. On the days I did not run, my legs automatically pained right at the time I used to go run usually, maybe muscle memory. I will try to restart.

@keplerb Thanks for the beautiful advice! That is really positive thinking.

 

It's incredible the effect sleep has on your ability to resist urges. I think that is really honest of you to hold yourself to that standard. I could really learn from your attitude. Stay strong man!

I relapsed yesterday cause I forgot to pay attention to HALT. Came home tired to an empty house, thinking "I'm just gonna go to bed." Well, one thing led to another and I ended up relapsing. I will try my best to avoid justifications in the future.

I completely agree with that man. The whole time I've tried Nofap I've never felt a full, lasting conviction that porn is bad or that I should stay away from it. If only things were that simple! I know on a conceptual level how bad porn is to your mental and physical health. Yet in certain moments it feels like a battle between the part of me that wants to stay away from the habit and the part that wants the temporary pleasure. Maybe it's the "real" me vs. the "addict" me but I'm not completely sure. All I know is that you are right with the discipline part. When I've been disciplined I find it a lot easier to resist urges.

 

Just read some of the threads over there. That's not a bad way to tackle this at all, thanks for introducing!

Day 5
I miss it when I think about it but I barely had those thoughts today so it wasn't a particularly hard one.

 

hi everyone its been a while day 1 hopefully im gonna get better this time i wont stop but please help me man

 

bro its been sooo long!!
good to have you back mann
get back on track bro, you got thiss!

 

Today was just day 2, but I relapsed this morning. I should have just got out of bed, but I started fantasizing instead and ended up relapsing. It wasn't to P, but that's no excuse. I gave up too soon.
I'm bitter because I wasn't aware that doing so breaks my fast, and I had high hopes of getting through Ramadan without a relapse.

 

Day 3 night, I am dealing with a lot of stress, leading me to a lot of undesirable thoughts.
I think that this whole thing is like a positive feedback loop, I will tell you all why.
I am feeling stressed right now because I procrastinated, and I have some work to deliver tomorrow morning that I have partially done. This is leading me to PMO (I have not relapsed yet, and I will not). And the procrastination is the product of the PMO, and the lack of drive masturbation created last week.
So this is the devil. I figure it can be defeated by breaking this cycle, using sheer will power. I hope we all defeat this guys. I am feeling the guilt slowly seeping away, and I am on the track to being normal.

 

hi man its good to see you again

 

going trought day 2 ( even when the day counter says cero i didnt relapse yesterday so this is day 2) hopefull

 

I think I'm a little over a week (8 days if I recall corectly) no urges since day 4 so nothing to complain about acept my laziness. @yrjyrj and @corylife how are you doing?
Get up guys who relapsed and stay strong to the ones who are on their streaks! We'll make it together happen