Flirting as a trigger

Hello Fapstonauts, I'm in need of some advice. I reset from my 10 day streak earlier today, after a "slowburn" which started yesterday. I was playing paintball, at the same site at which I work, when one of the lasses who works there, a lass called Fran, who I've known for quite some time now, took a bit of an interest in me. As in trying to talk to me a lot, lots of waving and smiles. I'd feel honoured, if it weren't for the fact that I know her to be a lady of less than stellar morals - she's been round the the lads, as they say. Don't get me wrong, I'm pleasant enough to her in person, but I am not at all interested in her, either in a sexual or a romantic way.

All the same, however, my obvious sexual appeal to her (and not her alone - another lass there has called me "chiselled" before) was a bit of a trigger. Luckily, my reset was not bad - I watched perhaps 30 seconds of porn if that and it is not at all hard for me to get back on track (the key is carrying on as normal, rather than dweling on it!) and it'll be easy to move on and hit that three week milestone I look forward to hitting. Still, I obviously do not want to risk this happening again. Now, while porn or masturbatory urges are easy to put down (I have a little almost reflexive reaction, I give my head a little shake and chant to myself "coom go away") I very much struggled with the realisation that sex would be quite easy to get if I started to talk to these lasses more - it was a whole new trigger I hadn't even thought of before. Therefore, simply put I started this thread, so anyone else who has experienced this and gotten around it can speak, and we can share advice. I've been thinking, and my solution is to, when it comes up again, to simply remind myself not only how they are not at all the kind of women I'd want to sleep with, but how - to me, at any rate, this may not work for everyone - sex without love is not sex. Casual "sex" is little more than mutual masturbation. Just gotta remember that, and this trigger will go as well.

 

Oh, it's definitely not just talking to girls. Just the day before, I spent 4 hours having a walk and a picnic with my crush, and I was fine - one of the best days I've had in ages in fact. It was specifically the sexual undertones of the flirting I encountered Sunday which triggered me.

 

1) Sorry, I was just trying to be clear as to what happened. Sometimes people just say "x happened" and time is then wasted asking them questions about it. I'll grant you that, correct, it does stick in my head much more than I'd like it to; if being considered attractive didn't matter to me, then I wouldn't have reset and have made this thread in the first place. It is not a self-esteem thing, however. I'm glad you said that though; I think an appropriate reaction to this trigger coming up again could me remembering my own worth, and how I wouldn't want to defile it with promiscuity.

2) As for labelling of casual sex as an absolute, I do so for my own reasons. I understand not everyone will see it from my view, but how is it poor thinking? Casual sex makes it a lot harder to develop intimate relations with someone. This is objectively bad from my point of view. This is not a topic I've jumped on, but one I have considered and concluded on. Realising the objective truth within life is important to me.