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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by corylife, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. Bold_Prawn

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    I relapsed again. This was a second all-nighter in a row, and I had peeked somewhere near the beginning of the night so that it became maddeningly hard to focus on studying with sleepiness and constant urges. Should have just gone to bed. Should have.
    Not trying to justify it, that will never do. I was just being stupid trying to study like that. Never pulling an all-nighter for school again.
    My streaks are inexcusably low: day 4, day 1, day 3... I was reluctant to set a goal because I felt that it seemed like giving myself a license to relapse after a fixed number of days. I'm going to set one today: ten days.
     
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  2. TheBluePrint

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    You got this let’s go!
     
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  3. TheBluePrint

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    welcome to the thread!
     
  4. TheBluePrint

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    Day 7 in the books for me! First week felt so weird like my brain feels so lost!
     
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  5. Infidel.48

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    Day 4
    Reading all these posts on this forum , gave me an insight to how fcked up this whole addiction is .
    I skipped ERP, yesterday, today I will do it . I wont visit this forum till 5 pm. Anyway I am going to crush this addiction with ERP
     
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  6. bootloader

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    I'm with you.. I lost it today. Will make 10 days together
     
  7. bootloader

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    Sorry I have Relapsed .. so silly of me. It looks like I'm finding reasons for it. I could have avoided it. But the worst thing is I chose to do it. Bit depressing but will come back and make next 10 days. You've my word.
     
  8. Ratatosk

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    Keep it up guys! Bold Prawn don't do boring things (I think you're not really interested in studing what you had to study, but don't worry me too bro ;)) at dangerous times, do them in the savetime (when you feel best and most save to withstand). I know how it is to relapse and excatly know what you should have done. Don't bother yourself with the past and block the way you relapsed. In your case would it be to study during daytime and go to bed early or keep yourself busy till it's time to sleep. Let the past be the past and try to see it positive: you know now that all-nighter are a bad idea and you can change that. Try to see the opportunity bro, not the failure. I'm a negativ person as well, so I what I'm doing is stop to listen to sad music (if you do it too just stop bro, it really helps a lot), try to organie my day
    bootloader same
     
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  9. Inner Treasure

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    I am facing a real challenge today. There is an urge to look at Porn, which I know will ultimately end up in Masturbation, because I got the whole night for that........ I am fighting it pretty hard. I will sleep, but the CoVID lock downs are back, and planning ahead has become so stressful. Uncertainty about the lock downs, and how I will shift to a new university, a new city, how will I find roommates. Its all looking so daunting!

    But man, I must fight this. In uncertainties, we require good decision making, and let go of the illusion of control. I do not control how things will pan out, but I can assure myself now, that I will do my best in the future, as the situation develops!
     
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  10. Ratatosk

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    Ups, didnt meant to send it. Back to Prawn (don't you worry bootloader you're next ;)): I plan my day and try to do as planned. When I fail I try to find a way to block the way I relapsed and move on. But I had to start the process from zero just like you, so let's do it together!
     
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  11. Ratatosk

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    You'll make it man don't give up on me!
     
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  12. Ratatosk

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    Sorry bootloader, back to you. Had that too in the past but it's holding you down so get rid of it. I think you need a little bit of success to mount the horse again. Set an easy goal and then reach it, it should help against the softly depressing feeling. Do it again and again until you feel good enough to tackle the greater goals. Three days should be enough to begin with. When you reached them push as far as possible and than set the goal to reach four. Push it constantly bro, but keep on pushing.
    Btw I relapsed multiple times today. Last one two hours ago. I'll go to bed now and win the fight tomorrow. Stay strong guys. Especially you Inner Treasure!
     
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  13. Ratatosk

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  14. Sir Monte Cristo

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    Thank you guys! :emoji_grinning:
    And @Ratatosk dont worry about the relapses man. Forget they happened and move on stronger than ever. They are nothing but a miniscule dent in your progress.

    Anyway, here marks day 1 complete in about an hour. Today was fairly easy because I kept myself busy with running, school enrollment and job search. Only thing I could work on right now is keeping my hands away from my pants when Im on my computer.
     
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  15. TheBluePrint

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    Day 8 in the books!
     
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  16. Infidel.48

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    India ?
     
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  17. Infidel.48

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    Day 5
    I have skipped ERP for the past 3 days, I am really thinking if I should do or not. Anyway I ll go clean without ERP for 14 days then check it out.
    MO itself is not "addicting" but drains the energy out of you. The pleasure is less but the energy required to conjure up the images in your head is a lot . It leaves you hollow and energy-less for a few days. So I am not going to MO as well.
    Also I haven't been studying AT ALL, I NEED TO START ASAP.
    Yesterday I was flirting with a relapse, like literally , spent around 5 hours on my phone without any locker or any sort of self-control had no urge to look up anyway, ERP got me rid of that shit . Theoretically I should have relapsed but I didn't .It had also been 3 months since my last relapse on that phone so that should explain it as well
     
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  18. corylife

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    Sorry I let you guys down. I relapsed. I got on another computer that had less restrictions and i relapsed. I'm ashamed of it but I will pick myself back up. I really want to not relapse until my birthday which is on may 28. That would be a nice birthday gift. exactly 1 month.
     
  19. ThisSideThatSide

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    wtf is wrong with me?!
    relapsed.
    day 7 or something.
     
  20. Bold_Prawn

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    LOL, I was reading Fundamentals of Physics - very interesting, cleared up a lot of physics doubts. Too bad I was just too sleepy to focus, and I had urges on top of that. I think I expected what was coming next. Been swamped by schoolwork, barely holding on to sanity, but all-nighters won't help. I'm trying to organize my day - I tried Getting Things Done once, but quickly fell off the bandwagon, but I'll try to give the book a reread this weekend.
    I guess blocking the cause of your relapse gives you a sort of relief that you did something, but I can't afford to stumble at every possible 'leak' and block it if that's what it takes to move on. Need that willpower.
     
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