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Confused about something

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Apr 15, 2021.

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  1. So I haven't started a streak yet, Im just curious about something.

    So I used to test myself a lot regarding my sexuality. I guess you can call it HOCD. I consider myself Straight as I only want to have sex with women, but for some reason when I tested myself looking at pictures of men to see how I would react, I would get a small reaction to looking at abs.

    Now let me clear up I think abs on some women looks sexy and turns me on. Abs on a guy have never gave me an erection, but when I tested myself my "thing" started to get a bit aroused and a sort of a spike, like about to get a chub.

    I'm confused if this means I'm bi. I've never jerked off to this but still. There's some sexual attraction to mens abs and its confusing me.
     
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  2. you like abs
    that's all
     
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  3. palindromo

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    You should quit the compulsion to test your sexuality

    Your sexuality is clear , straight.

    When your obession arises you should recatalog it for what it is.
    An obession is something beyond our control .
    They are natural until you experience them as a torment making questioning your integrity , like something is wrong with you.

    The compulsion is the phase when you try with logic to find a truth to the intrusive question.
    ( You'll never find it! The cycle is repetitive. An answer is never enough)
    Doing so , you're making it powerful and you became slave

    When you'll have a new question about your integrity just call it for what it is , an obession .
    And stop , you can't give power to a thought that is not truly yours

    If it becomes a serious problem , talk to a specialist
     
  4. Randombro

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    What you do is compulsion. Stop it.
    You focus on on the abs, check if you feel something and you are highly concentrated on how your body reacts.
    This can cause groinal response which can pull you deeper in the rabbit hole.
     
  5. Thank you guys. Its so weird because it's only one picture of this guy that causes this, not his other shirtless ones. Its a weird feeling to describe.
     
  6. Trash545415

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    Do not question what you know to be true or else you'll allow in anything.
     
  7. What do you mean? Should I accept it?
     
  8. I would say to put this behind you as soon as possible. Accept the fact that it effected you, but then move on. You don't want to end up acting on it. About 15 years ago I agreed to let a gay buddy of mine act out an ab fetish on me; it involved kissing, biting, and punching. That was one time 15 years ago, and although the fetish wasn't mine, to this day I'm haunted by it, but I deal with it, it happened and let's face it, I was a willing participant. So I didn't, and never will, blame my friend. But every now and then when I see a shirtless guy, his abs will register as sexual; and I hate it, and I feel like everyone knows. And, sometimes, not always thank god, when I'm with someone and she touches or kisses my abs, I flinch. And when my edging was at its worst and my brain was desperate for new stimulation, I would recall that encounter and use it to push my fantasies to the extreme. And it's all because of what happened all those years ago when I felt like being "experimental". So right now what you're experiencing is nothing to be concerned about, just do your best to keep it that way.
     
  9. Nucleus

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    Perhaps it's an inspiration to get abs yourself, and your addiction to porn is confusing it with attraction. I would go to the gym (Do HIIT or something crazy like that) and start a diet. Then you can be in love with your own abs.
     
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  10. J053H32n4nd32

    J053H32n4nd32 Fapstronaut

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    Going to the gym is a good plan.
     
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  11. Wolf01

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    You are not gay, being gay is something else/more than looking and finding Abs attractive. Possibly is the HOCD.

    A gay man can find and identify an attractive woman as well, and will still be gay.

    Same as men, usually are the ones that mostly compliment other's guy muscles at gyms.
     
  12. Yeah, Ive also found other guys attractive sometimes, like in the face. To the point where Ive gotten groinal responses. I feel like I "Like them" but this goes away when the fear goes. Its something in the eyes.

    Its usually with guys that look similar to me.
     
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  13. That sounds interesting, I might have to give that a try and see how I feel after.

    This also happens to me with faces, somtimes I would see an attractive guy and get these sensations but it goes away after I stop obsessing. Also get some arousal with penises but I blame porn for that one and an unfortunate situation from when I was 7 of a man showing me his
     
  14. Trash545415

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    What I’m saying is that if you go astray and deviate from the path, your mind gets lost and you’ll lose sight of your true self. You are not gay; you just got lost.
     
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  15. Randombro

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    Every sensations during intrusive thoughts and obsessions can be false arousing and groinal response.
    This is how HOCD works
     
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  16. jrm61

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    How old are you? If you are going through puberty then anything can really get you an erection. I wouldn't think too much about it.
     

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