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Does taking advantage of prostitutes help during NoFap recovery?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by since1995, Apr 27, 2021.

  1. since1995

    since1995 Fapstronaut

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    Just curious to know for the men who are single during the nofap journey, and had ED issues in the past with women. Will it help to build up confidence by trying things with prostitutes or happy ending massages? What are your opinions.
     
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  2. Based on what other guys on here have posted about prostitutes, it seems a very bad idea. There is the potential to become addicted to this. Plus you will probably feel terrible about paying someone that does not care for you, and in some cases may hate you, for sex. I'd say as well that there is a possibility that your confidence will go down rather than up.
     
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  3. Brazilian Polyglot

    Brazilian Polyglot Fapstronaut

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    Idk man, I've been to a few escorts before and had a good time (legal in my country). Only bad thing to it is the price.

    If you already done your 90 days but you're still not so confident into a sexual relationship, I think it's ok to go to an escort first (if it's legal) to test things out, but only doing prostitutes as a lifestyle is definitely a no-no.
     
  4. Ekhangel

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    Sure it's great. Just like going to a wine tasting session when you're an alcoholic.

    By the way - building up confidence by paying for sex? Hmm...
     
  5. Can I treat my nicotine addiction with heroin? Even putting morality aside. From what I've seen on this forum, you can become addicted to escort services. So it doesn't make sense to treat a sexual disorder with - sex.

    And @Ekhangel and @The Passenger already pointed this out, but this will not boost your confidence. Why would a prostitute care about your performance, the quicker it ends the less work for her. She's not in it for pleasure, but for money. This would also have repercussions on your future relationships. Definitely don't fall into this temptation.
     
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  6. since1995

    since1995 Fapstronaut

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  7. No way man, part of nofap is becoming a better man and not objectifying women, I’m not going all feminist because I’m not one but it’s important we don’t just view them as meat which prostitution does just that, it’s a absolutely disgusting profession and I am sickened by men who take advantage of it.
     
  8. since1995

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    Then How will the one know whether his PIED has come to an end?
     
  9. idk just not with a prostitute
     
  10. I am a wait until marriage dude but he needs to get a girlfriend at the very least to see.
     
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  11. Brokenwings27

    Brokenwings27 Fapstronaut

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    No it wont. It demoralizes you. Think about the woman youre having sex with and not her body. Or that doesnt matter? Youre just gonna pay for her body and throw her away? Further degrading her and yourself.

    Women in prostitution are degraded and you participating means you agree to degrading her and yourself.
     
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  12. Exactly women in that profession do not like it one bit and in their minds they have no other choice.
     
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  13. Brokenwings27

    Brokenwings27 Fapstronaut

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    Yup although some of them actually have good living situations and do it for selfish greed of extra money. Its still a issue. They degrade their inherent value in exchange for cash that they sold their body for. Either way no one wins when engaging in prostitution. Name me one person that wins
     
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  14. R2DToy

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    I've been to plenty. When I was 10y younger I didn't care or think too much about visiting them. I didn't have ED problems back them. But I've had similar thoughts the last few years though. My conclusion is that it doesn't help at all to build confidence. It's not only expensive, but many prostitutes are - like the other guys said - in it for the money. There are prostitutes who actually like their job, often they're S maniacs, sorta addicted to it and the money is a plus for them.

    If you do intend to go through with it, you're usually better off with an older prostitute, they are often not only cheaper, but more relaxed and friendly, and aren't literally waiting for you to get your climax and leave. This did help me feel more welcome and comfortable, though I feel that nothing beats having a girlfriend. S with prostitutes will never be as 'real' as S in a relationship, due to the fact that you're paying for it, the fact that often you're not actually 'welcome' (except the money in your wallet) and the time limit (this only adds to the pressure), and of course the absence of real actual love.

    Anyway, I know by now that I've still got many mental problems, mainly performance anxiety, fears, which leads to depression, to medication, none of them are benefitial to you. The fears and performance anxiety are the ones that get to me. I believe it's a crucial part of my own ED problem. Have not yet found a way out of it though. Watching P seems to be the one of the few things (next to eating) that still give me a little bit of joy. Not much, but a little bit. Or at least, it appears that way.

    Hope you're doing better than me, be real careful with visiting prostitutes though, they can be addicting because they're an easy 'fix' just like P, only much more expensive. We've got to work harder and try to solve what's tangled in our minds. We need to become our true selves, without shame and judgment. Accept ourselves who we truly are, and with that our current situation. Only then we can be happy with ourselves, move on, and no longer seek for quick fixes elsewhere.
     
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  15. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    I helps sure, as methadone helps the heroin addict to leave heroin.

    The bad thing about prostitution is that it is like porn it's not real sex.
    A woman needs to create friendship, feelings before committing to sex, prostitutes skip this so is an unnatural way of having sex it mess up your mind and your energy. It can cure Nofap but it creates another sex problem instead.
     
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  16. takingthejourney

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    dont do hookers do NoFap and talk to girls and build real connections and sexual attraction sleep with them
     
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  17. No, sex is actually even more addictive than porn, trust me I know. Stay away from prostitutes and escorts at all costs.
     
  18. PhantomAssassin

    PhantomAssassin Fapstronaut

    Never done it but getting a prostitute seems like watching porn physically. It's not real, she is not feeling anything you may feel something but this would be even worse! Imagine falling in love with a porn actress that you watch?!

    I can't imagine the guilt you will feel after.
     
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