Too much focus on crazy sex?

If you both want to have sex everyday is totally fine. Enjoy it. Once or twice a day can count as 1 or 2 hours exercising so it can't be wrong. But if you have sex several hours a day it can interfere with your obligations in life and that is when it became a negative aspect.

There's nothing wrong about having experience in bed. Knowing a lot of positions and having a lot of variations to have fun in bed is a plus. Of course everything you propose to do in bed should take in consideration the other person and make them feel confortable and enjoy it in some way.

If that is inside the bed is totally fine. Outside the bed you can tease her with something sexual but very ocasionally. You should be busy doing other stuff thru the day, if you only have sex in your head all day long then that is not good and again is going to get between you and your obligations in life.

 

As long as it isn't messing up other parts of your life it's totally normal and not too much. If you and your girl want it then go ahead it's human nature and it's healthy.

 

If it's what both of you want and enjoy, sure. Just from a reality standpoint, that's 99.999% of the time not something that lasts long-term. Infatuation at the beginning is normal.

One other point - it's NOT healthy to connect your personal worth, the worth of your relationship, and your entire mood to your sexual frequency. If you're in a bad mood because you didn't have sex for 24 hours, and you take it out on yourself, her, or the relationship, that's a bad sign.

The vast majority of people don't do crazy positions. Porn and sexualized media makes us think that everyone is doing something we're not. If you both are good with 1-3 positions, then that's fine. No need to feel pressure.

Flirting is one thing and is fine. Constantly having sex cloud your mind or it becoming the all-intrusive focus of your relationship is another. It's good to be attracted to your partner, it's bad to make her sexuality with you the basis of her worth and your self worth. Does that make sense?

 

Sex should only be strictly for procreation.


I kid, I kid.

 

Sex should only be strictly for procreation.

 

Knock yourself out. Enjoy. But if you're looking for a serious relationship with her make sure you have other things in common to enjoy too. You can't have too much sex, but you can have a relationship that is too much about sex.

 

Did you learn that from your Catholic upbringing?

 

Excellent point!

 

I used to be in a relationship where the only thing good we had together was the sex. This ex once said to me “all we do is fight, and fuck”. It was not a healthy relationship at all.

 

no, reason tells you that.

 

Yes. I think porn encourages us to play certain roles in our sex life that aren't really "us". I have found a different kind of passion in my sex life since starting my Normal Mode journey. I feel less like I'm playing a role and more like I'm fully present during sex.

A relationship is more than just sex, but we're also social creatures so relying on just one person is unfair even for a healthy relationship. Some people turn to polyamory, but many healthy people enjoy monogamy and friendships to find the right balance.

 

I recommend reading Cupids Most Posisonous Arrow

 

For someone who had sex for more than 10 hours straight and days on a row non stop. I have learned the best is not to over do it.

Sex has to elevate you, if you keep doing it non stop you are just searching an overwhelming amount of dopamine. Even like how I do it, I do tantra, so never ejaculate I never feel tired while doing it or afterwards, as everything in life even good things, it requires balance. Also think about the girl if she gets too tired ask her, some girls can not handle having so many orgasms. Also check your energy levels if you ejaculate everyday in a couple of weeks you'll be feeling very weak, you are young so you can handle it now, but be aware.

I would say no more than an hour a day if you are doing it every day and some days 3-5 hours are fine.

Check how she feels and how your energy is in order to create a balanced sex life, sex it's like a sport in a way, sports are great but too much is harmful. Sex is an energetic and physical activity.

In terms of crazy sex I'm not sure what you mean, if it's only different poses that is not really crazy and is fine. If you are talking about bdsm, dirty talk, threasomes, outdoor sex, poppers, drugs. Well I think one should avoid that, sex is very animalistic in nature and one has to always see a more spiritual, elevating side to it. It's pretty easy to go to the dark side of sex. If one starts to focus only on the superficial sensual enjoyment of sex you end up experimenting with pretty dark things as I mentioned.

Healthy experimental crazy sex is great.

The key to see how much is too much and how much crazy is too crazy is to check your energy levels during and after sex also how you end up feeling after sex, if you feel refreshed with more energy, require less sleep, you are more strong in the gym, you feel more love to the girl, if your mind is more calm, you are more focus then that is good sex.

If you feel tired, your love for your partner decreases, you don't feel real desire to have sex again with her, you are more unhappy, you search for new lovers. Then there's is something wrong in the sex.

Sex always require recalibration everytime you do it. In terms of time and the sex itself you are doing.

 

It's also a good thing never feeling fully satisfied that way desire is always there the flame never turns off. Leaving something in the tank, like when I'm having sex I know I can do it for more time but I purposefully stop so I can enjoy it more the next time.

 

About the dating apps and casual sex that's not a good idea, you are just messing up your energy. And all these girls are sucking your energy. You are the one losing. Both are losing actually.

Casual sex is like junk food, it seems appealing but it damages your energy you become low vibration, you'll attract people, girls of low quality and I'm not talking about looks is about energy.

You have to create the sensibility to know how disgusting casual sex is. You are not there yet, still have the junkie mind. Stay with one loving beautiful girl and you'll understand that is way better, even if you have sex with a different super model everyday. That is one of the big mistakes men do and many never realice how bad this is.

Just feel your mind and your energy after these dates, after casual sex. You'll see you are messing yourself up.

It's not about how much different tasty foods you can eat it's about quality healthy food. It can taste good but your health is suffering. Casual sex can taste good in a superficial level but is toxic. Loving sex taste even better and is good for you. It took me many many years and sex with almost one hundred girls to figure this one out.

 

Also it's better not to have sex at all that with someone of low vibration and bad energy even if it's a ten in looks

 

I like your spiritual view on different aspects of sex and life. Thumbs up