Question About Masturbation

My view: neither porn, nor masturbation, nor ejaculation are inherently bad. You would be fighting a very difficult battle if you wanted to stop ejaculating entirely. But you can certainly quit P and M indefinitely. If you're a masturbation addict (or think that you might be), then stop indefinitely. If not, then do it at your discretion.

If I was as disciplined as I want to be, then I would never watch porn or masturbate at all. Some people have multi-year streaks of never touching themselves, so it is certainly feasible. I myself have attained 93 days of no PMO, wet dreams notwithstanding.

 

I think you managed that situation really well!! Excellent in fact!


The thing is, your body is not adjusted yet to ejaculating only so little, so you get blue balls. Go further with the streak, your body will eventually adjust to having few ejaculations, the blue balls will eventually disappear. And you can go on much longer streaks. Trust me.


Also, it is correct that indeed porn is the big enemy and you didn’t even fantasise but kept your eyes open! Really great job. You have a bright future ahead of you if you keep this mentality.

 

Agree with this. My first long streak I felt I had blue balls for weeks. But your body does adjust. While porn is much worse than regular MO, MO still is unhealthy in my opinion. The longer my streak the happier and more fulfilled I am. When I MO, I feel horrible, exhausted and depressed.

 

It all depends on what you feel is taking you away from living your best life..

For me pornography, strip clubs , escorts are hands down gone for the first of my life. I'm 750 days in!
At first masterbation was ok with me , I eventually gave myself permission to masterbate 2 times a week. But I eventually stopped indefinitely ( for now ). As I found myself really counting down the days until I could do it again. I'm 8 months without touching. Myself !
I also stopped drinking alcohol and smoking marijuana as I noticed I was using these things to numb or distract from reality. ( 5 months sober with these items )



* So again I believe it's up to you and what your path in recovery takes you* and I think it's important to not take too much on all at once. Peel the onion, layer by layer at the speed that feels right.

 

There are some very sound responses here, take heed to them.

If I could add one thing, you have to maintain a good mentality with whatever path you choose. Personally, I found that masturbating takes away so much from me that I am comfortable with. I can't explain it scientifically, but that is what it does. I went over a couple of years without M-ing (I did have sex as I am married). I masturbated once after all that time and my penis shrank (this is where I cannot fathom any scientific reasoning).

Anyway, whatever you choose be in it 100% (for at least a month or a so): don't worry about other ways, don't worry about how long it is going to take, pay complete attention to your current process (it is like an experiment, you have to watch everything), and be available to joyfulness during any process.