Lack of libido . How to overcome it ?

You will have to solve the anxiety yourself. Only you can know why you get anxious, get to the root of the problem (could be pedastalizing women, afraid they will judge you, insecure in general) and solve that

 

Eu estou passando por isso também irmão, tenho 20 e a testosterona normal tbm, entrei no NoFap a 30 dias e ainda não vi melhora mas vamos em busca do reebot

 

You need minimum 90 days to see any real improvement

 

No worries bro, glad I could help.

I used to have this problem and there is no simple solution. Like I said in my previous post, you will have to get to the solution yourself. I cannot write out a set of bullet points for you to follow that will solve your insecurity and pedastalizing over night, it is likely something that will take months or even years to over come. Likely there is something deeply wrong with your worldview which causes you to seek validation from women. Although in saying that I would highly reccomend lifting, reading meditations by marcus aurelius and meditating.

 

Hi,

A therapy may help you with the anxiety that leads to PIED. If you have access to specialists freely in your country, make the most of it.

Good luck

 

I also had a major issue of putting women on a pedestal my entire life. I almost even got to the point where I based my worth on the “caliber” of woman I was with at any given time and only cared about how well I could please her sexually, that led to performance anxiety, which fed into my porn addiction because it was easier than overcoming my issues. This of course led to my current struggle of PIED, which like you said, you mentally want to engage with a woman but your body just won’t let you, even while doing foreplay it just doesn’t happen. So yes, to answer your first question I am definitely going through practically the same situation and you are not alone.

One thing that really helped me break the pedestal mentality though was reading The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (spelling?) it really put things in perspective for me in the realm of women and relationships in general. A lot of women will say the book is sexist or misogynistic but it really isn’t at it’s core. It even talks about eventually getting married and monogamy in committed relationships.

I would recommend all men read it at least once. At least skim through it.

Edit: Also, just remind yourself it’s okay to be a LITTLE bit selfish sexually. She has her needs and you have yours as long as it doesn’t harm her or you. It’s ok to objectify a woman as a piece of meat in the heat of consensual passion, in fact, though a lot won’t admit it, they do like it, as well as that raw animalistic sexual instinct that comes from “removing the person” from the woman. Again, as long as the sex is consensual and there is no harm being done.

 

Can you share the book you mention of pdf link