35 and Older Accountability Group

Checking in ... still in trials and in the storm. I’ll remain firm.

 

My thoughts are with all the good people out there who struggle with this addcition. May we all find peace and live free from it.

 

Checking in

Hope all is well with everyone.

 

You've not quit. I think that means a lot.

Are you seeing improvement? I can't tell if I am, but I think so. I had lots of nice little streaks longer than they used to be. Ive also learned to be lesson dramatic when things are going poorly. I think that helps me see through the addict brain lies.

The one thing I I do know now is not to judge how I'm doing within two days of a relapse/reset lol.

On the flip side, I don't want to keep failing in the same exact ways. I was learning from mistakes better last year. Maybe we need some minigoals to improve and stay accountable. 1) If I stay up late, no aimless TV or internet. 2) No aimless phone time in private locations.

1 week accountability goal starting now. If anybody likes the idea jump in. If it looks dumb no worries haha.

 

Where did NICEDUDE go?

 

I have read the rules and would like to join this group.

If there is a free space that is?

 

Failed today too much on my plate!

 

"I have read the rules and would like to join this group"

Hi, I would like to join.
I've had been keeping a journal in the 30+ section and would like to get into a group.

 

"I have read the rules and would like to join this group".

I would like to join the group.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

 

Checking in. Urges under control, fantasies still there but gradually subsiding. Closing in on the reboot.

This is my fave time of the year and it's helping a lot. Trying to stay as busy and as social as possible. Setting new goals for the summer, and possibly some travel if I can get around to it. I've realized it's important to add some novelty in my daily routine, whether it be learning a new skill, taking up a new hobby or going someplace I never thought I'd go. The more we experience life, the better.

Keep fighting and all the best to everyone.

 

Checking in today.

Had a bad relapse yesterday but trying to not give into self-pity or despair. I must remain appreciative.

 

Reset today.

Does anybody have any advice on what do after a reset? How do you get back to a positive, productive, recovery-focused mindset?

 

First post here. Thanks for the add.
I still got this one-day streak but boy am I triggered. Just did some errands, it's nice out, and the warm weather definitly gets the compulsive gears moving. And this time of day, early afternoon, on an off day is a weak spot for me.

There are some more tasks I need to get to today or soon and acting out is such a great way to forget about that stuff and procrastinate and dig the hole even deeper.

I'm going to take a few minutes right now and let my mind and body calm down a bit before I jump into the next thing.

 

Hey daryl_zero! Glad to see you're still going. I've just gotten back on the horse.
I feel like the best thing I can do for myself after a reset is follow through on a short list of things I can do for the rest of that reset day to be better primed mentally and physically for tomorrow. Things like sleep a bit earlier, if possible, and reduce screen time. Not to make a big declaration going forward but to follow through on them for the rest of that day.
Also reaching out to others here about their stuff or your own, even if its just liking posts.
Taking small steps from where you are, easier said than done, but you still need to take them.

 

Relapse. This is always the most difficult time getting back in the fight. I've removed some pitfalls like unrestricted internet. Back up.

 

I've been thinking about an idea latley and how it could be applied to recovery. The way that many high performance athletes are reported to lie to themselves when it comes to competing and how well they'll do, even though they may know that the odds are against them.
Seems to be similiar to our situation. Our desire to maintain consistent sobriety is at odds with a mentally entrenched set of habits that wants nothing to do with sobriety. I think we need to say more often to ourselves that, not only do we need to fight and struggle with this thing, but also say that we are going to fight and we are going to win.
For me, never adding that "and I am going to beat this," has always left the door open a crack for a relapse to creep in. Perhaps I felt like I was being more honest by leaving it out (statisically it fits that I will relapse) and perhaps it's a fear of failure. To not have that key goal verbalized, typed-out and believed as I'm getting back on the horse, its a guarentee that I'll relapse again.
Here's the Radiolab episode that got me thinking about how important lying to ourselves might be in sobriety. https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/radiolab/segments/91618-lying-to-ourselves

 

Checking in...fighting some urges but managing to hold out