Why do you like porn?

Both most concise and urge killing statement of the day.

 

Well, in a way it’s nice lol, cuz it has beautiful women in it.
I personally used to watch mainly porn where there was a single girl enjoying herself lol. Not all kinda weird shit people be sharing around here.

But I’m out of it . Sometimes I remember it being a really pleasant activity , but that’s just the devil tricking me and I ve kinda learnt his tricks .

 

That vampire lady thing got your D lad. Hope things get better for you, jokes aside.

 

Escape from reality, diving into another dimension where you can’t think about anything else. Completely present oriented seeking that rush (yet completely mindless, spun and and trapped).

 

I love porn. Porn is a fantastic product of the digital world. It cuts the need for begging a woman to have sex with you. It gives a lot of options never possibly available in real world. Just choose the best woman, use your imagination and have sex with her. No money, no nothing.

However, this doesn't mean I can consume it. No, I love porn and will love it until my death but I'll avoid watching it as long as possible.

 

Because porn gives us the ability to make most of our dirty desires come true I guess? (Yes, in a virtual way but it doesn't matter)
Whenever you're watching porn and start playing with yourself your brain doesn't know what you're doing.
It thinks that you're actually having sex, that's why it releases dopamine and the love hormone and it makes you feel relaxed and happy for a moment.

Of course, having sex with a real person is a better option but this option isn't always on the table

 

Naked woman are appealing.

 

I dont know if this is a trick question. But in order to really be able to avoid porn long term i think knowing this for yourself is quite helpful.

As of right now i dont like porn. Yeah i feel pulled towards it and sometimes use it, but not because i want to. But because my addicted brain likes different stuff behind porn.

Like @Stahl said for me it started because of sexual rejection/frustation at a young age. I was shy and not really attractive and used it to simulate a sexual experience i wasn't getting from antoher person.
This got me hooked in the first place.
Over time i developed more and more motivations to watch porn:
to simulate sexual experiences, to be distracted from unpleasant feelings, to procrastinate, to give myself a quick dopamine boost and probably more, that i cant think of right now

Anyway as of right now i dont like porn in itself. When i feel urges it is not because i really want to see the body of a person, but because i subconsciously know it will fulfill one of the many motivations i wrote about above.

I dont like porn for itself, becuase, I believe looking at porn is in a way using the people starring in it.
Of course there are a lot of personally driven people in the erotic sector, not being used by porn-agencies to make money, but rather because they enjoy it themselves, but a lot of them, i believe, are still insecure/unstable people, who in the end might no directly be used by someone but are indirectly used by the people watching porn, who are "abusing" their mental state.

 

I hate it now, but it was an easy escape from a relatively shitty life, where I found myself drifting without purpose. But in that void of physical pleasure is isolation and a soul wrenching disconnect from everything and everyone around me. Despite all the trials and tribulations that life brings, porn just makes it exponentially worse.

 

Im addicted and porn is rewarding. The problem is that I don't gain anything from porn just shame and regret. Im 38 now and I preety much regretted but porn seems like the only thing that helps now. To be honest I thought I was the only one with a porn problem. I thought the rest of the world was normal.

 

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What you're saying is very true, but be careful, were all addicts, and saying we hate porn after a decent streak is just our logical brain talking. We're human and we're never gonna be perfect all the time, meaning one slip whilst you're feeling shitty on a friday night can end the whole streak. But being mindful that we're addicted and understanding our urges instead of hating ourselves for falling for them may be another way you want to look at it. You might already be doing this tbh but it's just my 2 cents

 

Beep bo bop.

You're right, and you're killing me with the FnF puns lol. If I'm feeling shitty on a friday night, I'll just turn on FnF and jam out to some tunes. That's actually what I've been doing when faced with urges recently, lol. Playing a few weeks let's me destress or it just stresses me out more if I'm playing a hard mod or something, but it gets my mind off of PMO. Thanks for the advice, I'll keep it in mind.

 

I think the real problem is when you start to abuse PMO. When you start to use it every day (like in my case) over many years from a young age, well let's say it starts to become a necessity, not an enjoyment. You need that thing daily, it doesn't matter if you don't like it anymore, your body tells you to do it.

 

I can give reasons why I liked specific genere or kink but overally I don't like porn. All of this comes at a great cost and in the end all of this is fake, an illusion.

 

Lots of great responses. I feel what draws me to porn is the escapism and the fantasy also gets rid of the stress and makes me less bored. I never really struggled with wanting a hot girl I feel it really is just the fetishes that play a huge role in it I could quick regular porn easily. But fetish porn is a bigger struggle something about the taboo aspect excites me.

Luckily I am aware it is wrong and I feel I am doing better at resists the urges.

 

If you ask "do I love porn? "
Answer is a clear no
With reasoning and logic, it's easy to conclude that porn is not healthy for you or for people around you or for the actresses who are in the industry (at least for many of them)

If you ask ' why do I still watch it? '
This is like asking why do we binge eat though we know exactly it's not good for us, why do a cocaine addict still consume cocaine though he knows it's not good for him/her.

It's not clear exactly and best science have come up with is the dopamine reward system

So yeah.... That's my opinion
Nice question my friend

 

I was thinking about foot fetish yesterday and some serious urges.. but said to myself I can not relapse now even though I was urging to watch porn again.. this is shit scary as I started to think I am beggining to slip again

 

This mindset will bring suffering

 

I feel like I was tricked. All the lies that porn can complete me, it can fill the void and it can replace real life girls, and it makes me feel like everything is ok. But it's not. It never be like that anymore. I will touch and talk with real girls.

 

I guess it's the rush I get when watching. Just like drugs, it's that constant chase feeling. But it always ends in despair and lack of fulfillment so I'm trying to find the way out of it.