How to get over the urges when I look at hot girls ?

Are you on a hard challenge? If so, I presume you don't want to hook up for sex until you are rebooted, correct? If you're testicles are burning and need soothing: If you have a zip lock bag or something, you might want to fill it with ice from the hotel ice machine, cover it in a cloth, and apply to the scrotum (or use a cold wet cloth). If it's just your mind and imagination gone awry, maybe put some headphones on and listen to restful music and lie down and rest (or maybe a cold compress to the temples or forehead, too) - or give the suggested treatments both above and below the equator, if it's gone to both places. Also, if you need further push to stay clean, think of your resolutions and feel (from your heart) your commitment to your brothers here on NoFap and/or to anyone else or any value or principle you wish to commit to. Let us know how you did.

 

I feel you buddy, I go to the gym and hot girls everywhere some of them look at me as well but what I do is try to embrace the fact that even though I am a straight male cannot have sex in this moment and that I am compromise to the seek of knowledge , I don't know which might be your case. If you are really desperate try to approach the girl but don't fap to porn!

And I think one should not run from problems and if there are hot girls definitely look at them!, the only thing that you can do is try not to picture them in sex try to think of them in other aspects of life(imagine doing dishes, playing soccer or other activity), training every moment you look hot girls this way you are going to stop feeling like you want to f**k them . That's what I do, now I see hot girls and don't get desesperate for that .

 

I think a combination approach is called for here. Don't ignore the beautiful women; there is nothing wrong with finding them beautiful, or indeed sexually attractive. But, be aware of yourself. If the urge begins to go from manageable, to dangerous, remove yourself from the situation. You're in a seaside town; can you rent a row boat or something like that, where you can get some solitude away from them? If solitude is bad for you at this point (as it is for some) get up and walk somewhere else. Perhaps find a shuffleboard court, or another area that would be frequented by seniors, rather than young, attractive people.

If necessary, apply the physical remedies, of course. Also, when you notice a woman, think about her a bit, not her body. Does she have siblings? Did she go to university? What's her job? What interesting hobbies might she have? Basically invent a little story about who she might be, a whole person, with a family, a job, a life, dreams, and fears, to help you see her as a person, not a sexual object.

And, as always, remember the Possum Lodge Member's Oath:
I'm a man
But I can change
If I have to
I guess

 

Are you a person or a shark? Explain to me why a hot girl needs to be alone in order for you to talk to her. If anything being surrounded by her girlfriends means you can talk to multiple hot girls at once and be rejected/laughed at by several of them for the ultimate self esteem boosting experience!

 

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Agreed

 

@Killua1

What you're experiencing is exactly why I gave up PMO in the first place.

As others have mentioned, there's nothing wrong with finding girls attractive - that's natural. But becoming an uncontrollable meatsack of testosterone isn't.

To be blunt, if you can't maintain your cool in certain situations, then don't get into them until you're ready. My advice would simply to avoid it until your ready to.

Good news is, rebooting from PMO grants you self discipline and control over your desires, and stops you from seeing an attractive girl as a conquest for your man-spam.

Trust me, you'll be in a much better headspace to be engaging in conversation with the opposite sex when you're not a drooling mess, giving off a 'I'm on heat' vibe.

Good luck, we're here for you.

 

I struggled with this a lot, an older lady from Church gave me wise counsel along these lines:

You're a man, they are women.
You have sexual desires, so do they, God did this for a good reason just don't use it for your personal gain.
If you think girls are cute, sexy and attractive then talk to them but not so you can achieve gratification of the desire but because that desire is your instinct telling you that you are a man and if you are only talking and hanging out with men then you are missing out on half of the population and therefore half of your life.

The more you talk to those beautiful creatures called women and the more you respect eachother the less sexually frustrating it will become and the more balanced you will become in your life as you are now open to communicating with all people and not just half of the population who are the same sex as you.

Today I'm teaching a student (guitar) that I believe is actually really physically attractive. I almost quit teaching her because I felt a little tempted but I know that I just have to face it, keep talking to all the girls and eventually I'll realise that all girls are beautiful and I can respect them so I won't be actively thinking about sex all the time.

 

Rather than sexual frustration or tension I think it's healthier to see it as excitement, you're just excited to live in a world where half the population is women and you get to talk to them.

 

Dont look at women as objects. Ive had that probelm in the past and its just a mind game. Respct the woman and your mind will respect you.

 

In short: Stupid sexy Flanders!

 

I just taught that student and you know what I didn't experience any kind of sexual frustration this time.

It felt like I was worrying about nothin' at all, nothin'at all, nothin' at all!

 

You're very learned. Remember, it's pronounced lernd.

 

Pepe! Haha!

 

Yeah I'm a real star, with my jokes. A whole group of stars, really.

 

I'm startled by the offence I'm taking to this comment.

Why do you assume they want you to look at them sexually? Are they looking at you sexually? Are they looking at you at all?

You can respect girls, simply by respecting them. I'm startled by your comment of "it's like they want me to look at them sexually" as though you have some higher right.

Ask yourself this question: "Were you blind, how would you know how to respect a woman?"

 

Simpsons LOLS are the best LOLS.

 

Whenever you find yourself distracted by their tight pants, look at her hair, and consider it as glamorous clothing for her sexy brain.