Just starting (to take this seriously) (any advice welcome)

Welcome aboard Marty. Great that you recognise you could do with more support and this place definitely has that in abundance. You might want to try joining an accountability drop-in group that connects by Zoom each week here. There are a lot of people there who have a lot of experience just like you and share great helpful insights. One can learn a lot from discussions there.

For me, I find it's easy to lie to myself and that's probably my biggest downfall. It's one thing for me to connect with people and say I'm accountable. I even have an Accountability Partner, but it's another thing entirely to face my fear and the things that make me uncomfortable each day, and take an honest brutal look at all my avoidance issues and actively work to eradicate them.

I find the energy and determination to keep getting back up and do it quicker and quicker, is also a bigger task for me, but one I need to learn to master.

Good luck and keep a journal!

 

Hi Marty! I'm also new. Though I'm probably not a great person to turn to for advice at this stage, I'd just like to say I identify with some of what you said... in particular the separation from reality but also the point about different phases. I've been through so many phases where I thought I was doing well and making good progress only to completely relapse. I suppose I'm becoming more aware of my own weakness and my ability to lie to myself.

 

Hi mate,

You're a similar age to me I'm 32. Just think as men we're not in our primes yet that should come in late 30s onwards so now is a good time to prepare.

Facts are that any serious life goals which you, me and whomever else is on the same path had - will be stunted if were to carry on using porno bait and no doubt our prime years will be mediocre at best.

Put in the hard work now set the foundations and look forward to living our best life then.

Good luck and may God be with you.

 

Welcome

Try to do something physical everyday it's more easy to control the body than the mind. A healthy body is the prelude to a healthy mind.

Also sports release healthy amounts of dopamine and you feel less need to PMO

 

Welcome to the forums and to the fight of NoFap

I can definetely relate to the idea of seperation of fantasy from reality, struggled with it myself, at the age of 19-20 and it hurt my view of the world.
Now as I got a few large streaks things are looking for the better, and it will be for you as long as you dont give up, no matter what!!

As for tips, stay busy and productive, with whatever you want, avoid any trigger that might cause you to relapse, withdrawals are gonna show their ugly heads, be ready for that, and dont hesitate to get support here, the community is really supportive!!