11 months no PMO, semen retention cracking the code

Interesting question, the times I thought like that it was when I relapsed in the long run. I have to give myself time to work directly with the sex energy.
Believe me I will love to be a work machine and do nothing more, but I can't. It doesn't work for me.
It took me 19 years to accept this. I have to be humble, sex requires an special time in my life to balance it up.

 

Is that Elliott Hulse?

 

If you never ejaculate even when you have sex for the first time it will be 100 times easier to do it. If you get used to ejaculation during sex it's very hard to learn not to.

Ejaculation during sex, will make you as tired as if you ejaculate during masturbation. The indifference is you get some femenine energy fron the girl but if you ejaculate during sex you lose your masculine energy. Try to never do it. Trust me, you'll miss anything.

Read all the stories here of how tired, depressed men feel after ejaculation during sex and also the story of others trying to have non ejaculatory sex with their wives and how hard it is. If you never ever do it, it won't be hard.

 

I never had a problem with it. As long as you give her an orgasm girls are happy.
That is their main complain guys are just focus on ejaculation.

 

You just explain why you don't ejaculate. I doubt any girl will complain and if she does it's just selfish of her. You not having an ejaculation doesn't affect her well-being at all.

 

After the week on a streak you feel the benefits, 2 weeks streak you feel more strong, then after 2-3 months urges build up and it gets really difficult at this point you relapse and start all over gain or fight the urges relentlessly and see more profound benefits.

 

Yeah you are right you can live without sex. But you can't live without dealing with your sexual energy, whereas is through sexual transmutation or tantric sex. I mean it that way, it's an energy that requieres you to work it out, to organize it. I'm not really talking about sex itself that it's why I mentioned I was working on it through meditation. It's an energy you have.

I mean sure you can just not transmute your sexual energy but that is not a very fulfilling life.

 

Sexual energy is a mix of masculine and femenine energy we have both in our body. Women have more femenine energy and men have more masculine energy. To have balanced energy you need to have both these energies in check, male energy is more raw and aggressive and hard to control that is why nofap is mostly men, masculine or Yang energy is volatile it's hot and it needs to be balanced with femenine cold energy.

Women on the other hand is a passive energy more easy to handle that is why most women can spend many years without sex and don't have porn addiction also women have 20 times more sexual energy than men and orgasm is healthy for women. Men and women are very different in regards to sex.

To be balanced it means to have these two energies in your body in harmony, sex is a way to adquire extra femenine energy and to recognize your own femenine energy.

With tantric sex non ejaculatory sex you get the extra femenine energy without you losing your own.

With energy based meditations like the dan tien meditation or microcosmic orbit meditation you can enhance this sexual practice if you have a sexual partner or if you are alone you can be balanced too doing it.

Sex means love, pleasure, intimacy but for tao and tantra its more about energy and health.

If you can live @zeke27 without sex, PMO and be happy then don't mind listening to my crazy hippie theories. I'm just a taoist foolish man.

 

@InnerMan I've done Tibetan Buddhism tantra and tao for almost 20 years now, they were created for a spiritual purpose. I never talk about the spiritual side because this is not the place.

But let's talk about tao, taoism is a spiritual and health practice, they aim to achieve immortality through the cultivation of energy. They meditate a lot also they are practical people, morality as the western culture sees it, it's not part of this spiritual practice also tantra, they break the concept of sex as a sin or only for procreation.

Tao also requires for their practitioners to spend many decades doing meditation and they see diet, exercise and sex as a way to increase their life spam so they can meditate more. Taoists usually live longer than 100 years.

Sex is like food for them, it's a more refined form of energy, just like solar energy is a more refined source of energy than food.

In regards of solo practice Taoist consider solo practice more advanced, is way more difficult to recognice and use your own femenine energy, that is why taoist sex was created, to help you to be more balanced. In the levels of achievement solo practice its in the last levels of realization in tao.

You have a great help : a wife. Also if you really want to learn non ejaculatory sex, you should probably forget the word orgasm, it's just not something to consider in tao we use the word sometimes so begginers or people not used to tao can understand some concepts. Also multiorgasms it's fun sure I can have them for hours almost non stop but the aim of Tao is far deeper than pleasure. It's energy cultivation the power, wisdom, energy from non ejaculatory sex is far deeper than any type of pleasant feeling it can create. It doesn't mean it negates pleasure.

My point is you have to be clear why you are doing this practice, you do it for health, spirituality both? But to really understand it, this is more of an all or nothing type of thing, you need to change your view on what sex is, forget about orgasm, to never ejaculate. Have trust in the path. Tao and buddhism it's all about the middle path, not to be extreme but in regards of ejaculation it's something you simply have to never do if you really want to understand what this practice is all about. Otherwise it can create confusion, be a torture and misery and ambivalence. Energy needs a clear intention and direction in order to expand.

You have a wife at home you can do wanders, sex is a great way to increase your energy. And the only way to be good at non ejaculatory sex is practice.

If you feel the urge to ejaculate stop during sex don't go that far. Afterwards do Dan tien meditation and microcosmic orbit meditation so the need to ejaculate fades even more. Also don't focus so much on how good it feels having sex connect sex with health and creating energy, forget the pleasure part for a while.

When you gain more practice and experience you can enjoy sex more, have multiorgasms and all that. But see it now more like a meditation.