35 and Older Accountability Group

Sorry @jaberwaki

I was way to intense the other day

 

Thanks brother. Nice job hitting two weeks! Keep it up!

 

Hi all just checking in...no urges at all and on a. good long solid streak...no thoughts of P at all at the moment. Hope all are well!

 

I couldnt sleep last night. I have no desired for P and I'm doing a good job not forgetting that, but the force of habbit is funny. I had a couple thoughts to turn to PM for something to do. Like we are talking right after posting my personal plan to defeat P, commiting to it for a lifetime to myself, and logging off lol.

I smiled and ignored my funny brains ideas thinking of Golum going after his ring and realizing I don't want P.

It's so easy to swat away dumb ideas when my mind is in a good place, but I think I need to spend a few minutes every morning to review my plan when my mindset is still good. I haven't finished that smoking book, maybe it's got some.good ideas.

Anyway, checking in and ready for another day of not forgetting P is disgusting and I never liked it anyway.

 

which book is this?

 

DAY 2 check in

 

Struggling. Was looking for excuses and had reset last night. I made it a week then haven't made it 48 hours since.

 

Checking in. Hot here so did an impromptu river campout with my son last night. Woke up at 4:30, made a fire, jumped in the freezing river at 6am, then did Wim Hoff breathing. Feeling like a man. Too bad there wasn't a bear to wrestle!
Be well everyone.

 

I guess this one doesn't nod but know that somewhere he approves lol. I love camping and the outdoors. It seems to clear the head and do good things to be out there. I'm taking a son camping for 4 days in about a week.

 

Friday check in.

 

I read that book about 17 years ago, I remember it being very useful at the time. It took me until another few years afterwards to finally give up smoking, I haven't smoked in about 12 years now. The main thing I remember from it is the advice to "stop smoking and don't mope about it". Its a great reminder to stay positive about the changes you are making, don't think of it as giving something up, think of it as gaining something new and you will have a much better chance of success.

In my head I used to compare quitting smoking with quitting PMO all the time, but there is one big difference. When you stop smoking you can tell the people around you - family, work colleagues etc. It helps to let people know what you are going through, and maybe get some support as a result. Not so with quitting porn where, aside from the nofap community, you have to keep it all to yourself!

 

I have read the rules and would like to join this group

 

That's cool. Yeah, it's an addiction that makes you feel hollow and alone for many reasons, but that keeping crap to yourself is one of the biggest.

Yeah the advice not to think positively about P is the biggest takeaway I got from the book.

Some stuff doesn't translate into PM very well, but its interesting how most does perfectly and it was worth the read for the point not to think positively about P.

 

Friday check in.

Have a.great weekend everyone!

 

Ugh, I had been lying to myself. Time to restart in earnest. September 1st will be day 90, happens to be the day i will return to the office for the first time. Want to make sure I make the best of these last work from home weeks and months.

 

Saturday check in - 4 days....

 

Day2 check in ...day 1 of upcoming free life

 

Checking in. Urges/fantasies mostly under control, but triggers always randomly pop up here and there. Same coping mechanisms apply. Recently added meditation and will try some professional help as well. Must stay vigilant.

Have a great weekend, everyone.