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A couple of advantages of watching porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by frere, Jun 3, 2021.

  1. I'd rather not get addicted for life, thanks
     
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  2. frere

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    @Caminante Awesome point i havent realized yet. Writing down the "advantages" will create an really obvious list of what you want to gain from PMO. This gives you the power and ability to find it somewhere else, where you may even grow from it!
    Really nice point! Thanks for your opinion
     
  3. Overforme

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    I dont see anything POSITIVE someone can obtain from porn. This post could mess someone up into thinking its ok to pmo. What a friggin lie this post is. I really hope it doesn't mess up new fapstraunauts. I'm glad I'm a veteran with this crap addiction and see through this garbage lies
     
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  4. frere

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    @Capt_Zero Thank you for your comment, i think that the suffering you had to experienced is really showing how destructive this addiciton can be in a life and can be something everyone can learn and benefit from. Dont get me wrong, you are absolutely right for wanting to improve, i want that myself! I want to become clean of PMO and a way for me is to understand myself and my issues that brought me here.
    I am in no way trying to justify a problematic porn use :)The motivation for my post was: Eventhough i see how much suffering this is causing in my life, why do i still fall for PMO? What is it that keeps me going back?
    I hope this clears it up a bit.
     
  5. Overforme

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    Oh and let me go ahead and evaluate how horrible this post is.

    1. Internet porn can be incredibly exciting....So is cocaine... your point? Both = Toxic
    2. It’s available any time you’re horny... Yeah and so are my coke dealers if I chose to get back with that B.S... your point?
    3. It’s free if you avoid paid sites or services...EVERYTHING HAS A PRICE. YOUR HEALTH MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH ARE WAY EXPENSIVE.
    4. It’s quick and easy.. SO IS DOING A LINE OF BLOW - NO BENEFITS TO EITHER ONE
    5. You don’t have to get entangled with other people in acting out your sexual...so what??? I can take a crap without anyone knowing too. What are you hiding?
    6. You can indulge any conceivable fantasy you have...what a joke. Go live in fantasy island.
    7. You won’t be judged... YES U WILL BECAUSE YOUR LIFE WILL SUCK AND IT WILL IMPACT OTHERS.
    8. You can watch attractive, sexy people doing wild and exciting things.... ITSSS FAKKKEEE PIXELS!!
    9. You can feel normal, since millions of people are probably doing the exact same
    thing as you, even though they usually don’t talk about it.. NOTHING IS NORMAL ABOUT WANKING TO STRANGERS
    10. You will have a convenient sexual outlet, especially if you’ve had trouble
    developing a good sexual relationship with someone you love... LIES AND BRAIN DAMAGE. ARE U SERIOUS
    11. It’s anonymous.. WHATEVER
     
  6. frere

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    @Roader to Freedom thats 100% the idea behind it :) I translated the post of @Caminante and found his idea super useful! He basically says that this gives you the ability to find the "benefits" somewhere else and again gives me back the power over myself again a littel more :)
     
  7. frere

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    @Fallacious D Thanks a lot for your kind words! They really mean a lot to me :) Yeah totally, as you said if nobody, even subconcsiously, expected benefits from porn, they would hear about NoFap, realize they are addicted to something toxic/dangerous and then immediately be able to stay clean.
     
  8. frere

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    @ElderStatesman I like your comment! Especially the points about behaviour following thoughts. As you are mentioning i am building my restistance to PMO by understanding the motivations and finding out how they are actually lies, and if not how i can find another outlet for the motivation :)
     
  9. frere

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    @j.albers thats a good point. Intrinsically they are neither good or bad! It's as you said, all about ourselves and its interaction with us and how we perceive this substance PMO.
     
  10. frere

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    @fg4795 Really insightful comment! You absolutely understood my motivation behind this post :) This thread as well, as the cost-benefit exercise have really showed how a lot of motivations behind PMO are frauds and lies and i think you have understood this already before me.
    Using this insight to change my behaviour and outlets for the better, is what is is really about, not excusing porn, so thanks :)
     
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    I am 100% on your side @Overforme, i dont know if your points about the cocaine where a methaper or not, but you are making the same point as me, but maybe i havent made myself clear enough in the first post, so my bad.
    People get hooked on cocaine, and its not because soemone forces you to use it. It is because somewhere deep inside this person there is a motivation use. Does the person want to forget worries, is it because the person wants to belong to a group? There are millions of motivations. But my point here is, if this person understands what its real reasons to use are, this person is able to change his thoughts, feelings and behaviour towards the addiciton for the better.

    A person wouldnt put his hand on the stove just because of it, it feels bad. Just like PMO does feel bad in the long term. But what if for this stove-person burning its hand was the only way to get attention from its mother, suddenly there would be a motivation to burn itself and an incentive to do it.
    There has to be some hidden motivation behind porn use, even if its only your brain giving you nice dopamine, otherwise this self damaging behaviour would stop immediately once you realize that you are hurting/burning yourself :)
     
  12. silentmike

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    its a dead circle, you are horny because you PMO, then all those thoughts stay with you and build up your sexual tension which in the end gets you horny and makes you PMO again and again.... Its like if human body would be capable to produce vodka - an alcoholic would simply produce its own booze and get drunk whenever he/she would like to. P. addict has it all - its imagination - fantasies.
     
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