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The Hard Routine

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Shai_Halud, Mar 26, 2015.

  1. Shai_Halud

    Shai_Halud Fapstronaut

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    Proactively, deliberately setting intentions has definitely helped. Recovery is about taking control of your thoughts and emotions, not allowing them to go into autopilot. It takes time to make the habit/change permanent. Here I am reaffirming my commitment for a deliberate intention when I walk in my apartment door. I will say “pause” out loud (still using the gamer metaphor) and state my intentions for the evening out loud. I will talk through the WPP of own, align, and execute. From there I will make my dinner, using my IPad ONLY to play music. After that I will work on my fulfilling disciplines until it is time for bed.

    Rereading my log entries from the Reboot Course, I came across a useful section on combating the gremlin that Mark talks about. It’s the gremlin that whispers in my ear that I should just take a quick peek to see if there are any new pictures posted, or fetish entries covered on reddit. The final phase of my intention once I walk in the door is to visualize a stronger ally, a Spiritual Warrior, that will shout down the gremlin, telling him that peeking at those images is something we don’t do anymore.
     
  2. Shai_Halud

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    Hey all, I've been offline from here for a bit. I've struggled to get my "streak" going and it kind of got me down. I just finished a new self development that has given me the motivation to drive on though. One of my goals (actually a new habit I'm trying to develop) is to "blog" each day, even if just for a few lines, in this forum. I figure if guys can see how I'm reacting to my struggles it might [help them with their reboot.

    Two new techniques I've put into practice (borrowed from the book The Compound Effect, as well as ideas from the Reboot Camp newsletter) is to bookend my day with powerful, positive habits. In the morning, I take note and wrote down my number one goal in life (in this case beating Porn) and the top 3 things i can do that day to help me reach that goal. At the end of the day I journal and hold myself accountable. Did I live in accordance with my ideal self?

    Will this be the tipping point that helps me beat this? Who can say. All I can offer is that I'm still in the fight, and I'm going to keep pushing.
     
  3. Shai_Halud

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    Had a bad few days, been binging a lot. I'm not sure what the problem is. I have been applying the techniques I've learned, but in the moment of truth I still peek, and then relapse. The compulsion is strong. I suppose all I can do is keep trying.
     
  4. DannyCool

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    Once you get a few days under your belt you will be fine. Focus on other things for the first week of the reboot not worrying too much if you will succeed or not.
     
  5. Shai_Halud

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    Thanks. I know what i have to do, I have the tools, I just need to execute.

    This passage from a book I just finished sums it up: "Never Forget: this very moment, we can change our lives. There never was a moment, and never will be, when we are without the power to alter our destiny. This second, we can turn the tables on resistance."

    Powerful stuff.
     
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  7. Shai_Halud

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    Slow day at work today, so I set a goal of reviewing all of my NFA tips and tricks. I re-read my ideal vision statement, as well as my goals for the next few months. I also “practiced” my intentions per Mark’s recommendation. For this, I went through several “sets” of imagining I am home in my apartment, and I get the urge to peek at the model’s picture, or check for any update son my fetish. I went over in my head how I will interrupt that pattern, flowing from there into the Willpower Process. I know I must own my story, align that story to my ideal self, and then execute as my ideal self should. I have several fulfilling disciplines I turn to during the execute phase. I wonder if just feeling/experiencing the urges can constitute a valid “execute” scenario. After all, what we are trying to teach ourselves is that the urges are normal, that they are not to be feared, that they will eventually go away. Perhaps a good question for the next mentoring call session.
     
  8. You can try porn blocks for the hardcore part,And i would recommend a religiões walpaper,idk
     

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