First Time Sex ED

I have had PIED while on streaks of over a month and after using porn only one or two times a month so that could be an issue for you. Also it's very common to have Ed the first times you are with a woman. Cut out porn entirely. Even Instagram and bikini pics and then give yourself some time to adjust to your new partner. Sometimes I can't get it up the first few times but then after I get comfortable I have no problems. It sounds like the girl you are with is a good partner. Congratulations on that!

 

Totally the wrong attitude. This will only increase your performance anxiety and you won´t perform at all. I assume you are over 20 and being ''good'' or having experience in bed at that age is kind of assumed which creates stress. Porn also caused you to imagine that sex should be like in the movies, which is part of your anxiety. Sex is like riding a bike: 99% of people can do/learn it but, like everything, it takes a learning curve. You can´t expect to be an expert/porn actor on your first time. Experience is the most important thing and you need to collect as much of it as possible. As far as I see it, you can go 2 routes here:

1. Medication: take a vi*gra so you don´t have to worry about the erection problem. If you have severe anxiety however even vi*gra could fail you. You could try it out and lower the dossage each time, so you gain the experience to lower your anxiety.

2. Lower your anxiety by taking the pressure off you, not increasing the pressure: Accept that you suck in bed and that it will not change until you actively learn it by doing. Know that it won´t be always like that but that´s the way it is. Even tell her that you are totally new to this and don´t know what the fuck your doing. Tell her to teach you what she likes, how she likes to be eaten out or fingered. If you want, you can google how to finger or suck pussy to increase your knowledge. If you are like everyone you have probably done that already. But not every women reacts the same way to the same techniques. So communication is key. If she wants to please you tell her to go gentle and just caress you and give you kisses. Her trying to give you an erection will only force the situation and put pressure on you. If you kinda feel aroused, tell her she can try but it won´t probably happen yet (again take the pressure off). All this will take the pressure off you and by being relaxed and having no outcome dependence at all you might even get an erection. But the key is to not expect anything. Just try to enjoy the ride and the learning curve.

Hope it helps

 

Congratulations on realizing that NoFap is not a solution, but a tool. For how long have you been dealing with ED issues?

 

Do you masturbate? Release any sexual energy at all? Sometimes masturbating to natural thoughts or in a natural way like with a fleshlight can kickstart the rewiring process and make your body feel comfortable with sexual touches and experiences that aren't porn/hand death grip. If I were you, Id masturbate infrequently to wake your sexual desires up a little. Don't get sucked into the psychological flatline that you probably don't even have. If your mind understands that gentle touches can get you aroused, then there should be no issues getting an erection from a girls gentle touch.

 

I'm quite sure it had something to do with anxiety, it can even be related to your mood like if you're depressed it can im impact in sexual performance it has happened to me, also if you haven't connected yet with her into a deeper level can also impact. let me tell you my story, when I met my wife and we were about to have sex the first time I couldn't get it up, wanted to impress her and in the end it just ruined everything, after some time that same day after trying I managed to have sex with her, from there I started fall in love with her and erections became so easy. In the end we all think at some degree that everything has to do with our penis and being able to get it up but we forget about the feelings behind, loving another human and even developing trust with that person is the key to successful sex

 

you were nervous, and you have intellect that dominates your body, so it was just too fast for your mind to let it happen.

you may have rushed into it just a tad, since you probably had limited time to get intimate before your visit was over. if you had more casual time around eachother and the intimacy was given the proper length of build up (several days, weeks, or even months of becoming close in other ways, building trust that you are safe to be vulnerable together) you probably would not have even been nervous, just excited and blissful.

there's too much pressure from society and culture on "doing sex" and "sexing good", it's all a bunch of irrelevant status-seeking bullshit. sex is literally a spiritual union. it's an amazing event that deserves elaborate time and preparatory familiarizing with your mate. cherish your time together, and don't rush the sex. the sooner you get to the sex, the quicker the natural decline in the relationship over time, in my experience. savor it, like a rich desert, so you don't cheapen the experience.