Girlfriend wants to wait

I sincerely respect everyone religious path, but as an atheist...

...join Тhe Dark Side and enjoy your time with her
(yes, that is a flat out suggestion to proceed)

 

It looks like your main problem is the heavy make out sessions. Try to control yourself with her and "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
Song of Songs 2:7b
Try taking her out somewhere and learning to enjoy each other without making every meet up about making out. It'll be more enjoyable if you connect on a spiritual level before connecting on a physical level

 

I'm Catholic too and my husband and I still regret having sex before marriage. It's so much more special within a blessed union. Do you expect to marry her? If so, you'll have your time then. If you don't expect to marry her, then do not try to take her virginity. She can never get it back, obviously. Consider praying about it and even take your temptations to confession before you cannot overcome them anymore.

 

You want it, and she clearly want it too. She is never going begin with it or agree to it. Sex is always the mans fault, she want you to take a step foward and lead the interaction to the bedroom. In every second of the interaction she is capable of stopping you, if she don't do it then guess what? she is all in to procced.

Something to notice, after having sex or in the next morning she will be mad at you and will throw at you the blame for such a sin you just made, that's were you need to be calm and playfull about it and remember her how bad she was screaming or enjoying herself when you were having sex. Moreover, kiss her again and go at it one more time, be confident and probably you are going to be having sex again seconds later.

 

Are you advising him to manipulate his girlfriend? The mantra that if it feels good do it, has landed a lot of people with a porn or sex addiction. He has morals to live up to and your advice is immoral.

 

hedonism has really made your heart cold and you show a total lack of respect for another human being by suggesting this.

 

It doesn't sound silly.

If people don't have a Ikigai, then there's no point to life.
I just find mines in a different place than religion.

 

yes but she is not an atheist, and not respecting her wishes is messed up. It reminds me of what Saint Paul said, you are either a slave to christ or a slave to sin.

 

It's that kind of thinking that's created this world that's obsessed with sex and so many people are addicted. If we look at sex as what it is, we could get rid of all the problems surrounding it and live our lives enjoying all of life and not just sex

 

this! our lord wishes for us to experience true hedonism, the one you get from a fulfilled life where you are not a slave to your short term dopamine seeking brain, but where you can be free from it and live your life not constrained by your own evil tendencies.

who is more free?
a) a guy addicted to PMO (and "free" to PMO whenever he wants.
b) a guy who not only watches porn, but lives in a society where it is looked down upon and thus making it harder for him to get addicted.

 

It's not your whole responsibility. I mean you are not making her sin, it's the decision of both of you... Having said that, did you tell her exactly what you wrote here? I mean struggling with a moral dilemma (religious or not) is a great opportunity for sharing and getting closer.

 

this is a simple matter of whether you respect her wishes or not. maybe you should just put a ring on it

 

Did she make Mr.Chad Thunder “wait”? Probably not.

 

My goodness, just go and fu@k with her.

 

I totally understand. I hope you don't mind me saying but I saw that you understand that making out is pushing the boundaries too far, from a Catholic perspective. And dating without the intention to marry is also discouraged. (I know many will scoff at that here, but just wanted to mention it for your sake.) If you are interested in this stuff, Sensus fidelium and specifically Fr Ripperger has good talks on dating and chastity on YouTube.

 

You are very right to say this. "it is more than evil of me to seduce her to want it too"

 

Well, all religions prohibit sex before marriage. Nevertheless, everyone has sex without any remorse at all, including me. Do not put pressure on her, if she decides to do this, then let it be her decision.