Am I lone wolf...?

Doing NoFap is a great start! But the best way to gain confidence is to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself nice. Keep your negative self talk in check. Get your self care game up. Love yourself before anyone else. That's the best way to gain a sliver of confidence. Confidence in yourself leads to confidence in talking to others.

 

Learn how to ask questions and how to listen. You don't actually have to talk all that much to get people interested in you.

 

Honestly, just keep trying - go ahead and make awkward conversations. The more you do it, the more you'll improve. I went from not even being able to talk or look at women to scoring dates and even a one night stand - and I've had MANY awkward moments along the period and still continue having awkward moments every now and again. I've had much more awkward moments than good moments - It's just a part of growth. I'm not 100% confident yet and still need a lot of work, so take what I say with a grain of salt - but it's the only way that's been working for me.

 

3 years ago I was in your shoes.... I gained confidence after about I hit 360 days

confidence comes naturally (subconsciously) and dont let people talk bullshit to you

 

This has nothing to do with anything but lone wolf is largely a myth, either older female driven off or young fools looking for new territory, they will either find a new pack come winter, return to the old one or perish.