Why are vibrators so addictive? Eroticised my own self destruction

Youre a man, now act like one

Do not succumb to satans plan of weakness and brainwashing. FIGHT!

 

I have a sense the inclination to surrender is related to the so called death instinct ... funny most people on here will probably only know Thanos the marvel character and participate in a challenge with some eye candy picture from those movies, but the concept of thanatos and psychology will probably bore them to death in 5 seconds.

Here's a quote from the APA site, and it should go without saying but you can waste a lot of time online with people who don't even know there can be a different way of framing things and understanding what's going on, but hopefully anyone reading this might have some recognition there's deeper understanding to be had here:

 

It's pretty clear he's gone, there is nothing we can do to save him, stop wasting your time trying to save these types of people I've tried helping people overcome Homosexuality, it's a waste of time. If he wants to become a deviant let him. I'd rather that than have him subvert our religion.

 

You summarised your problem pretty well in the topic. It seems that sexual activities are a self destructing coping mechanism for you. But it won't help you and only makes things worse.

 

OP seems to confused and unhappy about his situation and he confessed in other thread that he was abused. It is uncharitable to say that it is waste of time to help him. Actions of other people are beyond our control, they often may not listen and this is discouraging, but you shouldn't say that they are waste of time and should become deviants. They may not listen in the end, that is their choice, but do not actively discourage them.

Isaiah 42, 1-9. Luke 17 1-2.

 

sex is not a sin. we are here because we have lost manageability of real sex and life also partly.
your fantasies are interesting find someone who also can enjoy your kind of BDSM if possible..

 

because we are humans? Our mind wants to feel pleasure, and our current society and civilization allow us all of this. Few hundred years ago, you would be happy to eat some simple foods and have an hour or two of free time daily. Our world gives us so many easily accessible possibilities, that our mind is simply overwhelmed.

Now I sit at home in front of my laptop, trying to work on something. I am attacked by some weird P. like thoughts, I can also go and eat some food even tho I am not hungry. I just want something. So what should I do, surrender to all of this? Then what next? - maybe my inner thoughts will tell me - why to bother with work, do play some games, or just read whatever you like.

Why am I writing this? - to convince me that I am doing the right thing, by fighting my demons.

 

You are right I was being a bit uncharitable I guess I'm still discouraged from trying to help a man who is older than me in his overcome his homosexual desires the thing was he was already married to a beautiful woman and had two children. I begged him to stay and think about his wife and children but It was no use, He gave up on both his wife and kids to fulfill his desires.

 

I heard about such stories and witnessed some of them on this forum. Some people reject any help that you can give them, some seem to be lost causes. It can be demoralising and frustrating. But you can't know how each individual path ends, so it is better not to make the situation worse.