35 and older accountability, Group 2

Fantastic work. Well done

 

Hey guys,
Been off the site for a minute so my numbers may not be accurate. Been doing really well in not seeking after porn. I still have slip ups and resets but it’s not a regular thing. Thanks for this accountability group.

 

Checking in. Guys, just wanted to say how grateful I am for this group. It really helps when you know you are not alone. Something that works very well for me is the Buddhist principles of non-resistance and acceptance.
I'll explain what I mean. Sometimes I get the urges, and then instead of going to the computer and do what I shouldn't or try to distract myself with something else(binge eating, drinking, computer games or whatever), I just lie on the floor and allow myself to suffer from the urges. I just experience them, without judging them, just observing the bodily sensations, thoughts and emotions.
It hurts, but it really goes away after I stay with it for a while.
Last couple of days I get less and less of those urges.
I found out that I start seeing girls in a completely different light. Before I would easily get aroused while just talking to a beautiful girl, now it seems like instead of sexual emotions and thoughts, I get more romantic feelings and genuine appreciation of the other person.
Hugs to all of you, and don't forget to treat yourself like you are your own best friend <3

 

I love this bro thanks for sharing.

You are so right about the self control and inner power increasing.

To be honest bro after 2 yrs i see the change in my voice,

it is more of a dropping in to our heart/and breath comes from a deeper centers and becoming more Grounded being, but meditation and constant contemplation and devotion to Spiritual practice for me has this effect of me being deeper in my soul and when soul speaks more, the voice is softer, deeper and aura is brighter.

super inspired to have you with us bro and thank you for sharing your journey w/ us so openly

 

Thanks brother, feeling the same gratitude, great shares and look forward to see your evolution

 

checking in,

Feeling really grounded, sense of loneliness has dropped tremendously as i have been more involved in a new community which i can connect deeply with others i resonate with.

I met a women whom I felt a strong yes from getting to learn about her, and feeling vulnerable with.

 

That's exactly what you need to be doing! Great to hear that you're getting comfortable with the discomfort of urges and just seeing them as transient. Keep it up pal

 

I’m really fighting this week to get to a week. Been trying to refocus my mind and know why I want to do this. I tightened my filters too and that reduces temptation.

 

Checking in here... I had a relapse 4 days ago. I wrote a journal post about it. This wasn't a full blown PMO edging binge relapse, fortunately. I was able to keep it minimal and not fall into a binge so far. It was P subs and bordering P and I probably crossed the line.

It's only been 4 days but things have been fairly easy since then and I continue to try to eat healthy/well and exercise regularly so I believe that is a factor that is helping.

Many times in the past, I would not be able to just PMO once but I would fall back into it multiple times and binge sometimes over multiple days. So far this time it was nearly as minimal as possible so I hope to keep it that way and continue on.

I don't believe I've past 40 days recently and I was almost there this time.

I'll be busy next week so I may not post again until the following week.

I wish everyone well on your road to recovery.

 

Checking in, another very solid week with no p, no psubs, and no looking for anything. I did find myself going through an old laptop in search of some specific data, and at some point I was looking through my downloaded pics (personal pics, no p), I realized that I was subconsciously hoping some kind of stimulating content would come up. It's very insidious that way, but luckily there was nothing there and I stopped browsing. I'll have to be honest with my motivations for browsing when I next feel a bit more activated. Good luck to all, some of you have impressive streaks going, but everyone's honest efforts here are inspiring.

 

I have read the rules and would like to join this group.

I am on day 37 and I am looking for dedicated people, who want to change their lives for the better. I have been on this journey on and off since 2016. After 2-3 months, usually I give in and I am at square one again.

I really have not found a truely alternative "cool awesome thing" to persue in live - so porn sites and dating apps were always creeping slowly into my mind and it was just a matter of time that I returned to my old "habbits".

 

I just read the rules and would like to join this group.
I'm really having problems to last more than 7 days without PMO, so I need some support.
Also looking for AP.

 

Hey guys,

I like to communicate I am completing my journey in this group and community at this time.

I am deeply grateful for the journey and every one of you specially @persona2903 for taking so much time to keep this group going.

At this time feeling called to put my focus in another community that i am a part of as such I wont be checking this website as often.

Having said that I'm always on my youtube blog and happy to connect any one for or answer any questions.

Thank you guys much gratitude and transparency and presence which helped me come to this stage of my unfoldment.

Blessings

 

Checking in. It's been a very deeply tiring (but ultimately successful) few weeks professionally and also personally. By Friday, I was so tired that the urge to go look for sexy content came over me pretty much any time I was alone and not paying attention. It was only my policy to try not to allow any kind of looking for sexy content that kept me away and saved me from what otherwise surely would have led to a relapse over a few days. Glad it worked so far, but better now to get into a more well-rested mindspace to tamp down those tendencies. Onwards.

 

All the best friend!! Thank you for your kindness and insights. Be well!

 

Sad to see you go. You gave so much to all of us. What’s the other community?

 

Hello everyone, just a quick check in here.

These 13 days have gone by fast and I was on a trip last week and virtually no urges during that time. Now I'm home alone so there may be more risk and temptation.

I feel like the super powers may be kicking in or maybe things are just going really well. I attribute it to many factors, but eating healthy (trying to focus on slow/low carb diet), exercise and practicing nofap I believe are factors.

Overall things are going very well and I'm hoping to keep the good times going for as long as possible.

I should be writing a journal post soon. Whatever you do, don't give up.