Sex Addicts Anonymous?

I went to some SLAA back in 2008 after a relationship breakup. At that time I was a bit resistant of (my imagined) bottom line (no sex outside a loving relationship) and so didn't stick around for too long.

I'm considering another stint, but not sure yet, I have to weigh up whether I want to go down the 12 step path again and whether it will really benefit me. I do think a lot of it may be a little too "one size fits all" rather than viewing people as individuals.

 

I have not attended SAA but have attended others. They are helpful. I do think you are right about how much it helps to be in a place where you are not "shamed" or made to feel like a second-class citizen. NF is really a great starting point for most of us, but strength in numbers helps a lot.

 

well, heres a site about Alcoholics Anonymous for you..

http://www.orange-papers.org/

That might go for S.L.A.A too. It didn't do shit for me, and theres a bunch of crazies there.

 

I believe that 12 step recovery programmes do have a100% success rate, but only for the people who are willing to surrender to all their principles.

What I mean is, if you surrender to a spiritual "higher power", work the steps, get a sponsor and regularly attend meetings it's unlikely that you'll ever relapse - but the majority of people don't want to do that for a number of reasons, and that's where the failure rates come in.

The success of any programme, whether it's recovering from addiction or learning to drive, depends on how much effort is put into doing it - if you don't put in the foot work you won't see results.

I got clean from drug addiction through NA, and I'm still drug-free nearly three decades later - at the time I walked through that door I was fucked, I was willing to do whatever it took and it was the only option I had available. I did what they told me and it worked for me. I still think they're occasionally flawed in their approach, I just set aside my reservations and took the stuff I needed.

 

try typing Alcoholics Anonymous Fraud in google.. there's so much debunking of AA.

 

If you're that way inclined you can find evidence for or against anything - it all depends on the reasons you're looking.

Try googling "masturbation is healthy" for instance...

 

Hi All,

I have been in AA and NA for 16 years now, and have read the debunker stuff, usually it's people who've taken things out of context, and misunderstood them. The debunkers are usually atheists, who are in ego consciousness, they are stuck in their intellects, and don't pick up the nuances and paradoxes in the 12 step program.
To be fair though sometimes they have a point in some of the things they say. All the anti 12 step stuff is American, in the USA there are more people, so there are more stories of bad apples in these fellowships.

12 step fellowships are based on spiritual principles, they are for people who are damaged and not spiritual themselves,yet anyway, although they have the tools in the steps to begin on a spiritual journey.
When you hear something said at AA or NA or whatever, that is just the opinion of someone there, with their interpretation of things.
I have never been to SAA, but I have a friend who goes regularly. some say it's brain washing, but we are all brainwashed from the moment we are born, and the 12 steps, and other spiritual practices help to unravel that.Personally I do as much as I can to that end.

 

SAA is amazing, especially if you live in a city with lots of meetings. Been going for several years. It's incredibly supportive. Strongly recommend.