Cuddle Buddys, a purely platonic service/website. NOT escorts. Your opinions on usefulness ?

I’ve heard of this sort of thing but you are the first testimonial I’ve seen on this board. I am only 38, I don’t think I am in any position to judge. In fact, I am interested in hearing about how this plays out for you in the coming weeks and months.

 

I had thought this thread might be for these meetup groups, but yes I have also heard of this as a private service - used to have a Facebook friend who did it but it wasn't someone I knew in person.

I know there are also some cafes where they keep a bunch of cats around. Of course, the cats themselves just have that physical affection rather naturally, and for me I think this is a significant distinction because though one is human and the other is animal, the latter is unconditional - or the cat is just being itself.

I'm in my late 40s and used to work as a massage therapist, and I expect a lot of younger woman actually would not have a very good touch - which was the case with some younger people I worked with at the school clinic way back when. There are some purely physical things like just using the finger tips instead of the whole palm, and that's just a matter of more surface area, but also some peoples hearts aren't really in it and there isn't a very strong presence with their touch.

I suspect this kind of service is similar to massage in that a lot of people actually don't know what a really positive experience can be but since they're starved for touch anything feels good. What makes it a little bit different is with massage people are really just looking for a physical experience, you go into something like this looking for an emotional experience - touch is just the vehicle to get to that. So without judging physical technique or anything I would generally not find it that compelling just because the person is female, because the other aspect of that is emotional maturity. This kind of need can stem from old developmental wounds and such though so it may very well be that you don't need a particularly sophisticated emotionally mature person to provide a positive experience, so a lot of it may end up being a matter of having physical contact.

From my perspective it's just kind of unfortunate that it has come to this, even if you can get some good out of it. Basically I feel this should be based on understanding. For it to be done on an hourly basis is a sad commentary on the human condition. Just as there's no guarantee an hour is a good stopping point when you are talking about something really personal (so think psychotherapy) there's also no real reason to believe that's a natural stopping point in terms of any comforting effect for your nervous system through touch. It is possible for both to be based on what's needed and actually even sensed by whoever that is providing either the listening or the holding, but it seems we just don't live in a world where that common sense is recognized anymore - nor do many seen to have that actual sense.

 

no judging but she is fooling herself is she does not think that she is an escort, escorting services don' have to be about sex and this kind of thing just like f*** buddy usually leave one party wanting more either physically or some kind of commitment, my advice get away while you can,(plus 150 is just way too much for that).

 

thats fkn sad what has happened with humanity we need to pay each other or to go to such ways to just get a bit of human touch im speechless

 

Couldn't have said it better!

 

I had to do a double take after reading the thread title. I've never heard of this, but I guess the concept is not surprising.

But I'm going to say this is ultimately likely to be detrimental, albeit perhaps not as obvious as paying for explicit sexual favors. It's still the commoditization of intimacy, and it will eventually leaving you wanting more. Even if that "more" isn't sexual per se but it's still chasing and grasping.

Not to say that some physical relationships are fine as also professional but that' stuff like true sports therapy massage, physical therapy, myofascial release, etc. But those are qualitatively different from what is being described here which I think will leave you longing for more and not being able to quench it. And that's the essence of our addictions.

 

Will it not kill your self worth and respect in the long run, if you have to resort to paying people to cuddle and spend time with you?

 

this kind of service is very popular in Japan...

and btw - "Would you cuddle even with your friends?" yes!!! I do that with one and only of my friends (but we were together many years ago so maybe thats diff) but I know friends who cuddle too

 

did anyone requested such service from normal classic escorts? I heard girls often feel repulsed, and think that men are pathethic when requesting this , like just being loosers. but idk if thats true