Loneliness Is Good...Let me explain...

I've been on this forum so much, I think some might want to heave.

But please, hold it in, just long enough for me to explain.

Loneliness is not about rejection.
Loneliness is not about failure.
Loneliness does not mean that you are some kind of loser.
Loneliness is not reflective of who you are at all.
Loneliness is not reflective of what you can, and hopefully, will do.
Being lonely is not how God sees you, or what is the extent of your potential,
from His perspective.

But what is it for? What does it mean?

My opinion is that once in a while, God sets a man apart for a season.

I think it happens because a guy can get off track from who he is,
or what his mission in life should be.

If you are lonely, you have two choices.

You can fight against it, call people, text people, get on social media all day,
cry, whine, be depressed, hate everybody, become an incel,
drink, smoke, take street drugs, and/or resist completing a reboot.

Those are options. They aren't good options, they are just options.

The other choice is to accept the loneliness as part of the cost of life improvement.

Yes, I know it's all cliche. Didn't Brad Pitt say a derogatory line about it in Fight Club?

Of course. Everybody hates it because they hate pain, suffering and work.

But it has to happen. It's a part of life.

So you can either be a chump or be a chunk.

A chump says, nah, that stuff's too hard, I'll reboot next week, I don't want to workout today, I'm tired, I don't have time, etc.

A big old chunk says, GET ER DONE. What's next? He works his fitness plan, his financial plan, he starts working on inroads to success.

The number one question on the mind of a rebooter, all the time is:

Is what I'm doing right now helping my mission?

When you are fighting the loneliness, the answer is going to be no. When you text and get on social media, the answer's no. When you think of suicide, lay around in the bed, and procrastinate, the answer's no for that stuff. (And if you are thinking of suicide, don't do that. Because if you do what this post suggests, over time you will come out a winner.)

Because that is all the game of life is. It's work and patience.

You have to give this reboot some time. A lot of problems you think you can't solve right now are going to be solved automatically for you.

The other problems of your life you will solve yourself, but you will do it. You get clarity and motivation in a reboot.

Life is a thing where you do small bits, but they build up. Who is the guy who
ends up being the smartest in the world?

Is it the guy who never studies, but gets an A by cramming? No. This guy wins a battle but loses the war.

The guy who wins the war studies every day, even on a day when he thinks he knows it, still he sits down and reads it through.

That is how everything meaningful happens in life. If you want to be smart, you study a little bit every day, but don't take days off. To save money, it's better to put in $10 a week, than to spend it and hope that you can make it up. Because you can't, you lose the compounding.

Another thing about loneliness is that if you can be alone, over time it changes how you view other people. You don't "need" them so much. You can be alone, it is not suffering. You see being social and solitude as having equal benefits and drawbacks.

So I beg you to reach in your heart, say a prayer, and find out
what is your mission.

That thing you always wanted to do. Look up what the Japanese call the "icigai".

And don't give up on your reboot, don't give up on yourself.

Because you see how marginal some of the most famous people are.

Do it better. Do it bigger. Do it faster. Do it in a more unique way.

If you don't have a mission, then your mission is FINDING your mission.

And my mission is inspiring you to start your mission of finding your mission.

Which was God's mission to give to me...ah nevermind...you get the idea.

You are going to make it. Believe in the process. Keep grinding!

 

Glad it helps! I love to write a motivational speech,
almost as much as I love steak...

 

I love to motivate! Glad to be of service!

 

Yeah. You want what you can't have.

 

That is the ultimate goal, after some healing.

 

Awesome. Come back when you have made some progress and you will inspire us!

 

Yes, being lonely has been a powerful motivator for me.

 

What an amazing extended reboot you got there, and on hard mode!

Awesome leadership!