I found that dad watches porn

Hi 'fapout'. 'The truth will set you free'. Approach him as a son that loves his father and is worried about his behavior. Ask him
why? Engage him from the perspective of how it impacts and hurts you, which should result in him not becoming defensive, to
the contrary. Offer to work with him as an accountability partner. Love disarms all resistance, and you know what this continued
behavior will lead to, enormous pain for all involved. You want your father 'whole' for you and everyone around him.

God speed.

 

It is clear your relationship has not been close enough to have a 'father/son' talk yet, especially about
such a sensitive issue, but this is as good a time to have it as any.

In spite of this, the fact that you have the courage to approach him should tell him how much you love and
care about him. Put the 'ball on his court' about your findings on the web browser, step back and observe. I
would do so in a very private/non threatening setting, speaking from your heart. One of two things will happen;
either he opens up and acknowledges what has been happening, understanding your love and concern, or 'he will
run for the hills' in the form of denial because let's face it, it's humiliating to be discovered, but a 'blessing in
disguise' at the same time because 'he is not alone in this struggle'. It's a risk, no question, but you owe it to yourself
as a son who loves his father and to him because what's ahead for him 'is a downhill race with no brakes' if he does
not stop.

My two cents. Hoping the best for both of you.

 

You bet, and remember, it is HE who is ultimately responsible for his behavior.

 

Hi FO,
I'm sorry for your shock and pain. I also think it was a good decision for you to bring this here.
IMO, lyad has great insight and advice. Just one additional thought: maybe you can use your own struggles as an opener....
Looking ahead, what about some good old father/son time from time to time? Could be a help to both of you....
Much peace, brother. Mike

 

Hey Fapout. My dad's porn use is how it all began for me. I caught my dad looking at porn when I was 15, but I didn't say anything so he didn't know I caught him. I subsequently began looking at it myself out of curiosity. My mom checked the browsing history one day, and long story short, both my dad and I were found out. It was an incredibly awkward and uncomfortable time for us both, but even more so for my dad since he was the one who started me on all of it.

With that being said, my dad is an honorable, hardworking man who loves his family dearly. He had a period of weakness in his life, but as far as I know, he has never used porn since (wish I could say the same). All that to say, it sounds like your dad is a good man too. What it took for my dad to overcome porn was being confronted by a loving family member. Perhaps your dad needs the same thing.