Beach relapse

I’m 100% sympathetic to what you’re going through here, but...

WATER THOTS made me laugh

No bikini beaches are usually clothing optional or nude only beaches, so good luck. This was a test and you failed. Learn from it and do better next time. Week two is definitely a hurdle to get through, but you can make it to week three man. You got this

 

Wouldnt recommend going to the beach early in reboot

U should isolate as much as possible for the first 90 days imo. Even try to stay away from friends and general social situations

 

Can I ask why you say this? The exact opposite has been true for me. Being more social and being around friends more has been invaluable for helping me navigate reboot. İf I had been isolated for the 90 days this would have been much harder. The days I fight with urges the most are the days I'm isolated.

 

That was a tough one for you dude. But keeping that will to stay away from porn addiction has to be strong.

 

Because i believe early on there should be no influence from anyone, good or bad

If U say its harder than great, so be it. The best warriors are the ones thrown in the deep end early on. There will always be urges to jerk off if you let them cloud your judgement and are alone so think of it as training

Best to isolate so U can find out who U truly are and keep dopamine to a minimum

 

After isolating for as much as possible and for as long as U can up to 90 days the next thing to learn is learning how to pay no attention at all to girls and water thots. Training to not look at them will be hard but necessary

Only time to look is during sex

 

I respect your opinion and I see your reason for it, but I couldn't disagree more with your conclusion.

I definitely agree that there are times for solitude and isolation; no argument there. Some of the greatest men in history had solid and unbreakable rhythms of solitude that helped them accomplish what they did, and I try to incorporate similar rhythms of solitude into my own life. But those rhythms were such that they could be better men with those around them. Better leaders, better communicators, bettor creators.

Sometimes they were extended times of solitude (a week or two), but usually in was not much more than a couple days at a time.

I am not my own. I am a better man because of the people around me, and many of them are better men and women because I'm in their life. None of us are an island. We're healthiest when we're together, and we are made by each other.

One of the things porn stole from me is deep, healthy, shameless relationship with my community. One of the biggest things I've won back from it is deep friendship where I'm not afraid to share the deep parts of my heart.

I disagree that cutting off from society should be part of a reboot. If you have a community that pushes you to porn, you might need to cut off from them. But for many(/most) of us, a much healthier social life is a piece of and natural result of purging porn from our lives. I don't think that should be discouraged.

Yeah, I can get behind that

 

Hey, sorry to hear about your relapse.

I'm of the opinion that you should practice abstinence in the real world. Not under a rock or hiding in your room. Sure, it means you may fail often and early on, but once you do find your balance, you'll be good to go. You'll be able to appreciate and even admire the female form without losing your composure. So I say - commit yourself to doing better this time around, and get back on the wagon ASAP.

 

Bro thanks for this i will start training right now !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this gold key for all thirsty males outthere for real , the only time to look at ass & tities as when you're about to and durnig banging them !!!!! LoL

 

I get it brother beaches are triggers zones for sure